My xH talks to his ILs (my family) all the time, and I haven’t spoken to them in years, lol.

When we divorced he convinced them I was mentally ill and had done all these horrible things to him and our DC. So they sided with him. They still talk regularly on the phone about what a terrible person I am.

Sucks for my family, since they’ll never see DC again. I’m sure as hell not letting them around DC, and xH talks a big game but would never actually offer to visit or host them so they could see DC. Oh well!

Anonymous wrote:I only speak to them when they are visiting and only then because I have to lest they start up again about how rude and unwelcoming we are to their visits. Sorry. We work full time and have two kids in elementary school, pouting that no one is home to entertain you is childish, we told you a random week in may was not a good time but you came anyway.

So I have not spoken to them since their last visit at Thanksgiving.

PP local above.

Ah...I can relate! The biting criticism ABOUT the event in real time! Last year, we crammed my ILs, my newly divorced BIL and his two preschoolers into our relatively small dining room for Thanksgiving. I pulled out all the stops with placecards, centerpiece and fancy table settings to make it festive and fun (plus, I love decorating). We cooked most of the meal.

What's the first thing MIL said just as soon as we were all seated? She asked when we'd be renovating our dining room and offered her advice as to how to proceed. I shouldn't be so sensitive but it was like a slap in the face. So much for being gracious and kind to MIL.

Now my adult DD isn't speaking to MIL because MIL offered an unsolicited assessment of DDs appearance. Maybe this will be MIL reckoning?

I only speak to them when they are visiting and only then because I have to lest they start up again about how rude and unwelcoming we are to their visits. Sorry. We work full time and have two kids in elementary school, pouting that no one is home to entertain you is childish, we told you a random week in may was not a good time but you came anyway.

So I have not spoken to them since their last visit at Thanksgiving.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't talk to inlaws outside of in person visits. I'll talk to my family and DH will talk to his between visits.

Same here!

Yes. And we are all local.

My ILs are so self involved that they know pretty much nothing about me or DC for that matter. They hijack in person conversations to give details of their activities, gossip about other family members and prattle on and on about themselves.

COVID has made my life manageable. We will likely stop by for an outside visit for Thanksgiving.

Anonymous wrote:We don't talk to inlaws outside of in person visits. I'll talk to my family and DH will talk to his between visits.

Same here!

Nobody in our family really has any interaction with my SIL.

I don't talk to my FIL. He and MIL were divorced many years and he's not really interested in any of us except when he needs something. I was very close to my MIL.

DH hasn't spoken with his inlaws in years, but I haven't spoken with my parents in years either.

I haven’t spoken with my MiL in over a year and I certainly don’t miss her. She calls my husband and has no interest in talking to me. It doesn’t strike me as weird since I have no interest in talking to her, either. We care cordial when she visits, which is once a year at most for a couple of days. Is that weird?

We don't talk to inlaws outside of in person visits. I'll talk to my family and DH will talk to his between visits.

I don't speak to my inlaws, but neither does my spouse so it is easy.

Wow! Why not, OP? How does your spouse deal with things?

Enjoy it. It’s very common, but less common than just enduring abuse and toxicity because it’s the status quo.

I finally stopped speaking with my deranged MIL (FIL is long gone). Hope it lasts forever.

I have not spoken with either my FIL or MIL in 6 years. How uncommon is this?