Anonymous
Post 10/30/2020 09:53     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Anonymous wrote:Video games and Disney prints? Seriously?


These sound like presents for a 7 year old!
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2020 09:40     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother has always been terrible about getting presents. If you give him a video game he's played, he will tell you he beat it and toss it aside. One year I got him a Disney print to hang on his wall. I asked if he hung it and he said "his place is too small to hang anything". Every birthday he sends pictures of things he wants. He and his wife wanted fitbits last year and when I suggested a cheaper version, he said it was crap and wanted the better one.


So you get him a gift certificate that will pay for part of the fit bit, and specify “for Fitbit” on it.

While I question an adult sending pics of what he wants, at least he is making it clear what he wants. If you can facilitate that, do so.

I’m not a fan of adults asking for gifts at all, but I’m also not a fan of family giving people what they want, just because they want to give it. Sometimes, it’s better to not give gifts at all. Your brother is not gracious as a recipient, but you don’t sound like a great giver.


Pardon moi, I am an excellent gift giver. I am not a fan of getting unsolicited texts for expensive gifts though.


Actually, I agree with the PP. However, I think you should stop giving your brother presents. Problem solved.


I give what his wife suggests. Not sure where being a bad giver comes in.


Well it doesn’t, if you’re giving his wife gifts that she suggests.

Seriously people, even 4 year olds get to pick their own Christmas list. Is it a gift or is it a power play?
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 21:31     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother has always been terrible about getting presents. If you give him a video game he's played, he will tell you he beat it and toss it aside. One year I got him a Disney print to hang on his wall. I asked if he hung it and he said "his place is too small to hang anything". Every birthday he sends pictures of things he wants. He and his wife wanted fitbits last year and when I suggested a cheaper version, he said it was crap and wanted the better one.


So you get him a gift certificate that will pay for part of the fit bit, and specify “for Fitbit” on it.

While I question an adult sending pics of what he wants, at least he is making it clear what he wants. If you can facilitate that, do so.

I’m not a fan of adults asking for gifts at all, but I’m also not a fan of family giving people what they want, just because they want to give it. Sometimes, it’s better to not give gifts at all. Your brother is not gracious as a recipient, but you don’t sound like a great giver.


Pardon moi, I am an excellent gift giver. I am not a fan of getting unsolicited texts for expensive gifts though.


Actually, I agree with the PP. However, I think you should stop giving your brother presents. Problem solved.


I give what his wife suggests. Not sure where being a bad giver comes in.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 21:26     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother has always been terrible about getting presents. If you give him a video game he's played, he will tell you he beat it and toss it aside. One year I got him a Disney print to hang on his wall. I asked if he hung it and he said "his place is too small to hang anything". Every birthday he sends pictures of things he wants. He and his wife wanted fitbits last year and when I suggested a cheaper version, he said it was crap and wanted the better one.


So you get him a gift certificate that will pay for part of the fit bit, and specify “for Fitbit” on it.

While I question an adult sending pics of what he wants, at least he is making it clear what he wants. If you can facilitate that, do so.

I’m not a fan of adults asking for gifts at all, but I’m also not a fan of family giving people what they want, just because they want to give it. Sometimes, it’s better to not give gifts at all. Your brother is not gracious as a recipient, but you don’t sound like a great giver.


Pardon moi, I am an excellent gift giver. I am not a fan of getting unsolicited texts for expensive gifts though.


Actually, I agree with the PP. However, I think you should stop giving your brother presents. Problem solved.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 21:23     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother has always been terrible about getting presents. If you give him a video game he's played, he will tell you he beat it and toss it aside. One year I got him a Disney print to hang on his wall. I asked if he hung it and he said "his place is too small to hang anything". Every birthday he sends pictures of things he wants. He and his wife wanted fitbits last year and when I suggested a cheaper version, he said it was crap and wanted the better one.


So you get him a gift certificate that will pay for part of the fit bit, and specify “for Fitbit” on it.

While I question an adult sending pics of what he wants, at least he is making it clear what he wants. If you can facilitate that, do so.

I’m not a fan of adults asking for gifts at all, but I’m also not a fan of family giving people what they want, just because they want to give it. Sometimes, it’s better to not give gifts at all. Your brother is not gracious as a recipient, but you don’t sound like a great giver.


Pardon moi, I am an excellent gift giver. I am not a fan of getting unsolicited texts for expensive gifts though.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 17:21     Subject: Re:Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
No.

I'm tired of trying to figure out what certain people want though and would be okay with not exchanging with certain people.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:59     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Video games and Disney prints? Seriously?
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:57     Subject: Re:Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Based on your message, I was surprised to find your brother is an adult and found someone to marry him.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:53     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Adults don’t buy gifts for adults in my family. Problem solved.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:50     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
I’d stop buying for him.

Really. I did the same for my late father who would do awful things like call me and tell me that he was goi g to cancel the gift subscription I got him (and then did) or whine “you shouldn’t have bought me anything!” So, I simply quit buying him gifts.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:43     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Does he give you gifts?

If not, it’s time to stop altogether. Or switch to consumables. Give him a bottle of wine, chocolate, Olive oil—that kind of stuff.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:39     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
At least he tells you what he wants. I care most about my recipient liking and wanting my gift. If I give a gift and they don't like it, I hope they return it.

In your brother's case I would give him a gift card. Or ask for an Amazon wishlist.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:38     Subject: Re:Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
I give money by writing a check. Life is too short to buy people the gift they want. I want to give the gift I want to give and that too only when it is unsolicited and for some very close people.

No gift cards. And no cash/currency. Only a check.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:36     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
Anonymous wrote:My brother has always been terrible about getting presents. If you give him a video game he's played, he will tell you he beat it and toss it aside. One year I got him a Disney print to hang on his wall. I asked if he hung it and he said "his place is too small to hang anything". Every birthday he sends pictures of things he wants. He and his wife wanted fitbits last year and when I suggested a cheaper version, he said it was crap and wanted the better one.


So you get him a gift certificate that will pay for part of the fit bit, and specify “for Fitbit” on it.

While I question an adult sending pics of what he wants, at least he is making it clear what he wants. If you can facilitate that, do so.

I’m not a fan of adults asking for gifts at all, but I’m also not a fan of family giving people what they want, just because they want to give it. Sometimes, it’s better to not give gifts at all. Your brother is not gracious as a recipient, but you don’t sound like a great giver.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2020 16:27     Subject: Anyone in your family who are jerks about gifts?
My brother has always been terrible about getting presents. If you give him a video game he's played, he will tell you he beat it and toss it aside. One year I got him a Disney print to hang on his wall. I asked if he hung it and he said "his place is too small to hang anything". Every birthday he sends pictures of things he wants. He and his wife wanted fitbits last year and when I suggested a cheaper version, he said it was crap and wanted the better one.