Anonymous
10/18/2020 09:40
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Anonymous wrote:Well your arm hurt. It would have hurt at home too. It’s not like you had the flu and needed to be in bed. I would have just stayed to make MIL happy.
Do you work? I assume you have requested FMLA until your wrist stops hurting.
It's not like you said you stumbled during the winery trip and fell on your wrist and ended up with a bad sprain and possible fracture. If you did, you should have said so. Although kinda sounds like your MIL had had a long day and really wanted to check out for the evening.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 09:35
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Well your arm hurt. It would have hurt at home too. It’s not like you had the flu and needed to be in bed. I would have just stayed to make MIL happy.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 09:34
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
In a marriage, he should ask you first.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 09:10
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
You sound a lot like me - naturally timid/easy going, with an H that bowls you over every time.
You have to be assertive. Not “I’d rather go home” but “I need to get home”. If he refuses, get an Uber.
It sucks but some people are taught that they get their way all the time, and some (like us) are taught that you give up your own needs for others.
You have to be assertive. Not “I’d rather go home” but “I need to get home”. If he refuses, get an Uber.
It sucks but some people are taught that they get their way all the time, and some (like us) are taught that you give up your own needs for others.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 09:03
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Anonymous wrote:I’m feeling unwell and my husband insisted we stay for dinner at in laws
SIL, her fiancé, MIL, FIL and I went to a winery this afternoon. It was a nice day but my wrist and arm have been hurting this week. Around 5 we all head back to MILs. SIL and fiancé say they’re heading back and take the stew MIL is making with them. Meanwhile MIL asks me if she can pack ours too. I say yes, thank you.
Meanwhile DH walks in and says wait we’r having dinner here. I say erm ok but my arm hurts and I’d rather go home and be comfortable. MIL says ok I’ll pack it up for you. DH insists that no we’re staying for dinner as MIL worked so hard and would be heart broken so we stay.
I’m hurt that he wouldn’t take my discomfort into consideration
You are upset because he prioritized his mother's needs over those of yours his wife. Which is valid. However, you need to address that with him, and not DCUM.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 09:02
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
It sounds like MIL wanted you out of the house.
You and your husband are both wrong for putting her on the spot like that . You should have decided earlier on if you were going or staying.
If you were in a lot of pain you should have said so, your statement was wishy washy.
If you don't want to obey your husband like a child stop acting like a little girl.
You and your husband are both wrong for putting her on the spot like that . You should have decided earlier on if you were going or staying.
If you were in a lot of pain you should have said so, your statement was wishy washy.
If you don't want to obey your husband like a child stop acting like a little girl.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 09:02
Subject: Re:Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
You're the asshole, OP. Take an advil and enjoy a nice meal prepared by someone else for you.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:58
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Wow, OP. You are rude. Grab an ice pack and stay.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:48
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m feeling unwell and my husband insisted we stay for dinner at in laws
SIL, her fiancé, MIL, FIL and I went to a winery this afternoon. It was a nice day but my wrist and arm have been hurting this week. Around 5 we all head back to MILs. SIL and fiancé say they’re heading back and take the stew MIL is making with them. Meanwhile MIL asks me if she can pack ours too. I say yes, thank you.
Meanwhile DH walks in and says wait we’r having dinner here. I say erm ok but my arm hurts and I’d rather go home and be comfortable. MIL says ok I’ll pack it up for you. DH insists that no we’re staying for dinner as MIL worked so hard and would be heart broken so we stay.
I’m hurt that he wouldn’t take my discomfort into consideration
I agree with your husband actually. Your MIL prepared a meal, one couple already left with the meal instead of staying, your husband didn’t want to then also leave. It would have been hurtful to your MIL even if she never said a word to convey her hurt.
Not all MIL are emotionally immature as you.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:46
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Anonymous wrote:I’m feeling unwell and my husband insisted we stay for dinner at in laws
SIL, her fiancé, MIL, FIL and I went to a winery this afternoon. It was a nice day but my wrist and arm have been hurting this week. Around 5 we all head back to MILs. SIL and fiancé say they’re heading back and take the stew MIL is making with them. Meanwhile MIL asks me if she can pack ours too. I say yes, thank you.
Meanwhile DH walks in and says wait we’r having dinner here. I say erm ok but my arm hurts and I’d rather go home and be comfortable. MIL says ok I’ll pack it up for you. DH insists that no we’re staying for dinner as MIL worked so hard and would be heart broken so we stay.
I’m hurt that he wouldn’t take my discomfort into consideration
I agree with your husband actually. Your MIL prepared a meal, one couple already left with the meal instead of staying, your husband didn’t want to then also leave. It would have been hurtful to your MIL even if she never said a word to convey her hurt.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:41
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Is there a question here? What are you hoping to gain by posting?
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:39
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Learn to be assertive and take action.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:38
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Really? Suck it up. Wow.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:37
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
Can lift a wine glass just fine all day but can't eat a meal.
Anonymous
10/18/2020 08:30
Subject: Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell
I’m feeling unwell and my husband insisted we stay for dinner at in laws
SIL, her fiancé, MIL, FIL and I went to a winery this afternoon. It was a nice day but my wrist and arm have been hurting this week. Around 5 we all head back to MILs. SIL and fiancé say they’re heading back and take the stew MIL is making with them. Meanwhile MIL asks me if she can pack ours too. I say yes, thank you.
Meanwhile DH walks in and says wait we’r having dinner here. I say erm ok but my arm hurts and I’d rather go home and be comfortable. MIL says ok I’ll pack it up for you. DH insists that no we’re staying for dinner as MIL worked so hard and would be heart broken so we stay.
I’m hurt that he wouldn’t take my discomfort into consideration
SIL, her fiancé, MIL, FIL and I went to a winery this afternoon. It was a nice day but my wrist and arm have been hurting this week. Around 5 we all head back to MILs. SIL and fiancé say they’re heading back and take the stew MIL is making with them. Meanwhile MIL asks me if she can pack ours too. I say yes, thank you.
Meanwhile DH walks in and says wait we’r having dinner here. I say erm ok but my arm hurts and I’d rather go home and be comfortable. MIL says ok I’ll pack it up for you. DH insists that no we’re staying for dinner as MIL worked so hard and would be heart broken so we stay.
I’m hurt that he wouldn’t take my discomfort into consideration