In laws are very good to me. They are kind and loving, but give us lots of space. I think MIL would love it if we were even closeR (she always wanted a daughter) and I’m not against that, but neither of us really push for it (it’s just not in our personalities to pick up the phone and directly call one another, and, like DH, she’s pretty reserved) so it hasn’t happened. She’s a lovely person though and good to us. FIL is fine. Kind of a quiet goofball.

We get along ok. There was a bumpy period after DC was born because they became very demanding and I had to set some boundaries for my own sanity. But no hard feelings about it.

I know MIL likes me. I think FIL wanted to like me but he was old-fashioned and struggled with the fact that I am a woman who is outspoken about politics and sports. He had a hard time with it. He passed away this year.

My MIL is very sweet but not assertive. I sometimes intervene on her behalf because her husband and sons didn’t/don’t always think about her needs. We’ll never be close (too different), but our relationship is affectionate.

Cordial but not close. They’re good people but our world views are so different that it’s hard for me to respect them or want my kids to be influenced by them.

Anonymous wrote:We care about each other and are thoughtful and polite.

That said, MIL and FIL both are nosy and invasive, while I am introverted and private. The more they push and pry, the more I draw back. I try to give and let them in when I can, but I sometimes have to put the wall up. It amazes me that they seem to forget almost every visit, like, don't ask about my parents' finances (WTH?).

Almost exactly this. I chalk it up to generational differences and the fact that I am their only DIL ( or SIL).

I don’t speak with them much.

My H is emotionally/verbally abusive and they make excuses for it. I understand that he’s their son, but I’m not going to spend time around them and hear “he has a heart of gold and MEANS well!”

FIL is also pretty awful to MIL, and it’s extremely stressful to be around.

FIL/MIL have died but they were easygoing and delightful.

SIL is a nightmare and I haven't seen her in 7 years.

Do you get along with them? Yes, very well.

Do they like you? Yes, they do

How is your MIL? She's absolutely lovely. She's a good woman, accepted me with open arms, accepted the ways I was different from her family. Excellent grandmother.

FIL died year before we got married. On my 30th birthday no less. FIL was a real nice man from the little I saw. MIL hates me, but puts up with being around me so she can see her son more often.

Both are delightful. I wish they lived closer. We don’t agree on everything but have mutual respect for each other and I genuinely enjoy their company and think they have a really great marriage, which we try to emulate in many ways.

FIL has died. I love MIL and she loves me. We have an excellent relationship.

Anonymous wrote:My FIL, no relationship but he barely has one with his son.

My MIL, very loving and we both liked each other.

How is she? Dead. Wish she were alive. I miss her.

Wow. I was going to say almost exactly the same. (NP).

MIL - we didn't see eye to eye on everything (specifically, we did not see eye to eye on religion), but she was a wonderful woman and treated me very well. We had a good relationship. Sadly she passed about 10 years ago, a year after our first child was born.

FIL - DH talks to him on the phone 2-3 times a year. I talk to him in passing at major family get togethers. I generally avoid him, and I doubt he notices.

FWIW, DH has a very close relationship with my parents. He's closer to them than he is to his own dad, by a mile.

We care about each other and are thoughtful and polite.

That said, MIL and FIL both are nosy and invasive, while I am introverted and private. The more they push and pry, the more I draw back. I try to give and let them in when I can, but I sometimes have to put the wall up. It amazes me that they seem to forget almost every visit, like, don't ask about my parents' finances (WTH?).

FIL is overbearing and needy, perverted and isn’t happy

Step MIL was amazing. She treaded me like a daughter but unfortunately passed away. This made FIL even needier

Real MIL lives in another state and is pretty much non existant

My FIL, no relationship but he barely has one with his son.

My MIL, very loving and we both liked each other.

How is she? Dead. Wish she were alive. I miss her.

Do you get along with them?

Do they like you?

How is your MIL?