No, but one of my lifelong friends has a child with very clear undiagnosed autism and I've vented to my two other closest friends that it absolutely breaks my heart they haven't gotten him evaluated.

(I work in Early Intervention)

Yes

When my kids were younger, pk-1, I used to. I wasn't malicious, it was more analysis of what kids were doing and reasons why, but it was definitely a sign I was over-invested in my kids' social lives. I've stopped completely except with my husband and only occasionally.

I’m a teacher. Of course teachers talk about kids and parents. Also a parent and yes I talk to my husband about kids in my class and my own kids friends. I am not sure what you mean about smack talk though

No but when my children were in elementary school the teachers were crazy gossipers.

In MCPS teachers could place their children in the schools they were teaching in. it is a bad idea.

And one teacher told everyone anything they wanted....

Yes, but only an EXTREMELY aggressive soccer player who was aggressive to the point of violence. And we are talking 8 year olds and she was pushing and throwing other girls to the ground, threw a ball at a girl on our team last year, etc.

We switched clubs this year and turns out this girl is also playing in our club. Stood beside her mom today during a game (daughter was guesting on our team). Another parent mentioned how aggressive her daughter was and the mom admitted it was an issue they were working on. So, I won’t talk about her dd anymore. She knows it’s an issue. She’s doing private lessons with the coach to deal with it.

No really sure what "smack talked" means. In social conversation naming a kid and talking about that kid? Then no. Absolutely not. I know people who will vent to others about a kid and not identify the child. Is that "smack talked."

No never. I have no interest. I’d gossip about their parents though! Lol

Only to my spouse when the kids are not in earshot.

No. If a kid is annoying me I try to imagine I’m their parent and see them from that lens.

My SIL, who is basically a very good person IMO, does this. Before I had a kid I was increasingly uncomfortable with this-- especially as applied to kids under 13. But now that I have a kid, I'm even more bothered by it. And there are kids I don't care for! Who have been mean to mine! But it's so hard to actively hate a child, for me. Maybe that will change when we're talking about higher levels of actual cruelty (my kid is just 8), but I wouldn't bet on it.

Up until a certain age it’s really on the parents. So I smack talk the parents to my husband.

Kids? No.

But I’ve smack talked parents of the a** hole kids

No

Question is in the title. I vent to DH but have never smack-talked a child out of a sense of it being wrong - kids in earlier elementary years. I’m just curious what kind of parameters other parents set.