Anonymous wrote:I easily got pregnant with my first child at 28. Around 30 I started trying for a second. I dont like the idea if if or any fertility treatments so when I looked up at 33 and wasn't pregnant I gave up trying. Every month was a disappointing. I have endometriosis and was diagnosed with secondary infertility.

One day I went to the doctor and she gave me a random pregnancy test to prepare for a surgery and there was a really faint line. My youngest kid just turned 5.

It’s not very kind of you to share this story in this thread.

I would try/not try. Stop tracking, have fun, see what happens.

I easily got pregnant with my first child at 28. Around 30 I started trying for a second. I dont like the idea if if or any fertility treatments so when I looked up at 33 and wasn't pregnant I gave up trying. Every month was a disappointing. I have endometriosis and was diagnosed with secondary infertility.

One day I went to the doctor and she gave me a random pregnancy test to prepare for a surgery and there was a really faint line. My youngest kid just turned 5.

I got pregnant on the first try at 35, super easy pregnancy and delivery. Started TTC #2 at 37. I tried for 4 years unsuccessfully and was told I had unexplained secondary infertility. We did IUIs, one IVF, and one surgery (uterine to remove endometriosis) before we decided no more fertility treatments/interventions and just try naturally. I could not handle IVF, I thought it was awful. In the four years I had zero positive pregnancy tests. At the end of the four years I started getting peri-menopause symptoms, and that's when we decided to stop trying. My cycles started getting irregular and my estrogen level plummeted. I figured if I couldn't get pregnant at 37 when my numbers were great then it really wasn't happening at 41 when my numbers were mediocre.

So we have an only child.

I was 43 and DS was 2. I got used to a full nights sleep again after DS was born, he was an awful sleeper, and we were trying for another child. We didn't want to use fertility drugs or the like for a variety of reasons. DS got sick, nothing serious, but his sleep went from good to horrible for a week. I remembered how much I hated the sleep deprivation so we stopped trying. Tossing in the age issues and increasing health risks it was time to stop trying.

I am fine with an only, DH wishes we had a second. Nothing marriage ending but he would have liked a second child. It just didn't happen.

If you tried for another kid and at some point stopped trying - what was that point? Was it an official decision or one month you just stopped tracking and timing things and didn't really think about it anymore? Was it triggered by a particular point in time (youngest got to be a certain age or you'd been trying for x # of years or whatever)? Any tips?

I've been trying for another child for a year and I'm not interested in the IVF route (no judgement, just had tried that before two spontaneous pregnancies and know the toll it took on me personally). I'm tired of being on the monthly hoping and disappointment rollercoaster but also don't feel quite ready to officially decide to move on. at some point i want to though so i can fully mentally accept and move on...I just don't know when and how to do that. and i don't feel like i can half try (leave the possibility open but stop timing and things) because i'll still just hope every month but the odds will be even lower