Best way to stop this bullying is to make a written report of the incident to the Principal, Counselor and the teacher in an email. Send the email as an "incident report" and request that future "bullying" be stopped.

Use the word "bullying" and mention that your DD is now "afraid" to go to school and is stressed. If you do not use the word "Bully" and "Bullying" the school may not do much.

Mention that you are willing to meet with the Bully's parents to resolve this and have some constructive way to stop this behavior.


Any further emails should be done on the same email chain so that you have created an evidence "trail".

This is the only way to resolve this. You can send the email up the command line (Area Superintendent, Superintendent) if there is no improvement. Its amazing how everyone jumps to accommodate you once you do this.

- Ask me how I know this

Anonymous wrote:I’d be phased that 6th graders were on the playground with 1st graders. Your kid did the right thing in telling a teacher though.

Seriously! Our public Nova ES doesn’t even allow the 3-5 kids on the same playground as the k-2’s. Each has their own.

To the PP, why would you file a police report ? For a 6th header ? Do you have any idea what the juvenile justice system is like ???

Tell you daughter to keep a friend with her. Just a good idea. Your DD is developing some street smarts. Of course wish it didn't happen but likely kids do police each other somewhat. That boy will be seen as a real jerk if his peers see this happen.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't consider this 6th grader a bully, nor would I think this is a systemic issue. Your daughter handled it perfectly. Just tell her to repeat her actions if it ever happens again. And, don't demonize the other kid. Tell her that sometimes people aren't nice and say or do things that are wrong, and if it happens to her she should stand up for herself and tell an adult. End of story.

Apparently an 11-12 year old told a 5 year old I hate you and I’m going to push you off this thing. I’m happy to “demonize” him here, I didn’t to her.

I wouldn't consider this 6th grader a bully, nor would I think this is a systemic issue. Your daughter handled it perfectly. Just tell her to repeat her actions if it ever happens again. And, don't demonize the other kid. Tell her that sometimes people aren't nice and say or do things that are wrong, and if it happens to her she should stand up for herself and tell an adult. End of story.

Pissed. Not phased.

I’d be phased that 6th graders were on the playground with 1st graders. Your kid did the right thing in telling a teacher though.

Thank you, 17:47

First, I totally get why this sort of freaks you out. But with somewhat older kids, I've seen all sorts of bad behavior on the playground--and particularly bad language. If this is just a one-time thing wth a 6th grader being a jerk--but not actually doing anything--I really wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Kids usually "bully" kids closer in age, or in the same activities etc. I really haven't heard of a 6th grader habitually picking on a random 1st grade girl. So yes, he was a jerk. But it seems unlikely that this is going to be a pattern.

Anonymous wrote:If this is in fact what is happening it needs to be dealt with but kids frequently grossly distort what really happened.

And where is a 6th grader in school with a 1st grader around here, especially right now?

The report was from a teacher, and I don’t want to ID the school. We relocated from DC. My DD seems ok, and I feel grateful.

If this is in fact what is happening it needs to be dealt with but kids frequently grossly distort what really happened.

And where is a 6th grader in school with a 1st grader around here, especially right now?

I'd fall up with a call to the principal to make sure the situation is being handled. If anything physical happens, I'd file a police report

Exactly what she did - tell the teacher. The age discrepancy is such that the teacher will intervene.

Got a report that my 1st grader was approached by 6th grader who demanded she get off a piece of playground equipment, she refused, he said he hated her and threatened to push her but didn’t. Was told by teacher, DD is fine but scared. Teacher said the older child has no SNs - I asked which is probably stupid. What should I do to explain best way to handle should it happen again? Please be nice, I’m sort of rattled and she’s my oldest. Thanks.