You listed his reasons for moving but not your reasons for staying. Pointless

Texas is horrific. You can never walk anywhere. What kind of a way is that for children to grow up? Having to be driven everywhere by their parents, not knowing how the metro works...

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If you are white American, then you can move most anywhere.
If you are something else, then you need to select a neighborhood that will welcome you.
BTDT. It's the first criteria for me. We are a mixed-race, international family, and we need to be careful of where we land.

I would agree with you, but almost every state has parts of it that I would not move to as a biracial family ourselves.

Parts of CO and TX are fine, but you do have to stick to bigger metro areas with large suburbs.

If you are white American, then you can move most anywhere.
If you are something else, then you need to select a neighborhood that will welcome you.
BTDT. It's the first criteria for me. We are a mixed-race, international family, and we need to be careful of where we land.

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Anonymous wrote:The idea that kids aren't kids if they don't have a backyard is ridiculous. Tons of kids are raised in cities.

I would not move to either of those two states. I'd pick New England or parts of CA.

Rampant wildfires?

that's a huge concern, but it's not permanent. San Diego would be a good choice.

Anonymous wrote:The idea that kids aren't kids if they don't have a backyard is ridiculous. Tons of kids are raised in cities.

I would not move to either of those two states. I'd pick New England or parts of CA.

Yes, but given the choice, a yard for kids is always better.

Anonymous wrote:The idea that kids aren't kids if they don't have a backyard is ridiculous. Tons of kids are raised in cities.

I would not move to either of those two states. I'd pick New England or parts of CA.

Rampant wildfires?

The idea that kids aren't kids if they don't have a backyard is ridiculous. Tons of kids are raised in cities.

I would not move to either of those two states. I'd pick New England or parts of CA.

I would do CO for weather over TX.

You don’t say what your reasons are for not wanting to move, OP. This site is full of people who hate this area so you will get a lot of encouragement to move on it.

I’d get out of here.

He's not wrong. We almost moved to Colorado but chose New England instead. Bigger houses for less money. Better school districts for.less money. More of a community feel. We are within driving distance to several cities. Zero regrets.

We did it and it was the right decision. Went to Maine. Pick a small city (that is truly a city) and you can buy a house near the city with the benefits your husband wants. I live in a very sprawling almost rural area but can be downtown in the city in 12 minutes in a car.

He's not wrong. I live in the city and love it - soon as I have kids I'm moving to my home 'city' which is really a collection of about 17,000 souls and I don't consider a true city - because I can get the schools and the huge SFH for the same price as a condo in D.C.

I think you need to decide if you're interested in CO or TX (the stark differences being 30F winters and 100F summers respectively and/ moderate liberalism vs deep-state conservatism) and if you can find comparable jobs there. Plus family - having family nearby is huge.

My husband wants to move. He doesn’t want to raise children in the city and he thinks it’s best we move out of state. He wants to move to Texas or Colorado. He loves Colorado ( went to college there) and likes that Texas is cheaper and better weather. I don’t love the idea. I would prefer to stay in the city but he thinks we will better houses and be in better school districts if we moved. His friends live in Texas with some of the best schools in the country. He wants a house and a large backyard where they can be kids. We have looked at places online and have found very nice areas and homes. I don’t know if I should agree to it or convince him to find homes in VA.

This has nothing to do with politics so please leave that out of it.