It's totally normal to grieve an outcome that never materialized.

But if you get stuck in that grief, and it embitters you, consider seeing someone.

Sure. I truly thought I would be awesome in some way that others could recognize (Olympics, Emmys, etc.) and that's not the case.

But, my biggest fear was also winding up in prison and that's never happened yet. I was fingerprinted once, and thought I was fine but was so nervous I hysterically laughed so hard through the process that the police officer doing my finger printing was laughing too.

I'm sorry your husband sucks.

things could be better.

Anonymous wrote:I am in a funk about me lately. I just never really made much of myself. Some mistakes, but mostly just timing and circumstances that didn’t pan out.

I am also putting on weight and I am so down about that. I do try to exercise, but shit keeps getting in the way.

Just blah.

+ 1

Yes, 51 single female, never married. I would have never guessed my life would turn out this way. I’m in such a bad place with it too. And finding that I’m envious of a lot of my friend’s lives and I’m angry and hateful.

I am in a funk about me lately. I just never really made much of myself. Some mistakes, but mostly just timing and circumstances that didn’t pan out.

I am also putting on weight and I am so down about that. I do try to exercise, but shit keeps getting in the way.

Just blah.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's a FOO?

family of origin

Thanks!

Anonymous wrote:What's a FOO?

family of origin

I have 2 DSs. My DH has gotten increasingly cranky and non-communicative with age. Just found out my DS needs life -altering orthopedic surgery. Still hard to connect with DH even after this news. I rotate between being shell-shocked and depressed. Keep a face of positive normality and “we’lll fix it” for my DS but deeply saddened about lack of connection with DH. Would never divorce because of DSs and my feeling that if I could just change how I feel ...

No

What's a FOO?

You have a choice.

What type of political videos?

It’s a moment. It will pass. They all do. Even the good ones.

I always thought I’d have a great career, an adoring husband, and a whole bunch of kids. We’d all be one big, happy family.

Instead I had to give up the career I loved due to health problems. My DH never really gave AF about me and is more into watching political YouTube videos. I have one DC who I love more than anything, but I probably won’t be able to have more. Plus I don’t have any real friends, and my FOO is a disaster so I avoid them.

If I say anything, people tell me to just be grateful for what I have. I am grateful, but I had envisioned so much more for my life, and I feel like I’m mourning the life I never had.

Anyone else feel this way?