Where there was fire...

You were tacky Op

Anonymous wrote:
a smallish (and socially distanced!) party at our home

Grandma killer.

What a dumbass. You, not your husband.

You cannot socially distance in your own house. Once your guests are in, use your bathroom, touch your stuff, breathe into the air, it's done, OP.

That's the first thing you did wrong.

You took a big risk inviting an ex to the party without telling your husband he was an ex, with a friend there who put her foot in her mouth.

That's the second thing you did wrong.

The solution is to apologize to your husband for not telling him in advance, and to stop having indoor parties in your house.

Are we going to talk about the word "lover"? Maybe just calling him an ex would be less inflammatory.

If I were your husband I would go sleep with another woman and feel great about it when I came home. In fact, I might invite her to one of your exclusive socially distanced affairs.

It's strange that your husband is making a big deal of it, and it's strange that you tried to hide it. I wouldn't introduce him as "my old lover" in the moment but I would have let my DH know before he showed up that we had a couple of dates or he was my only boyfriend in grad school or whatever the situation was. Your DH is upset because you were being sneaky and he looked dumb in front of your friend later.

And party + hanging out with a girlfriend a couple of days later: nobody believes you're social distancing so don't even bother.

Umm if you are having parties big enough both of you can’t list the entire guest list in advance, even socially distanced, I don’t think that is a good idea. And in this case would have solved two problems for you. Try it next time.

Also if it was truly socially distanced you couldn’t even flirt so either your dh is really bored right now or you are not really socially distancing.

Anonymous wrote:Have sex with your husband. And then tell him the next day that your ex-boyfriend did it better. Lol.

Or when you are having sex with your husband, say your ex-boyfriend's name. Lol

Have sex with your husband. And then tell him the next day that your ex-boyfriend did it better. Lol.

If you didn't want to tell your husband you dated him, you shouldn't have invited him to the party.

<gets popcorn>

I would just let it go. He's acting like an idiot

Recently my husband and I hosted a smallish (and socially distanced!) party at our home. One of the people there was an old friend of mine from grad school. He and I were romantically involved back in the day but I introduced him to my husband as a friend from university days.

A couple of days later it came out that we dated when my girlfriend brought it up thinking that my husband knew. Anyway, he got all weirded out and pissed. Like why would I bring a guy I had sex with into our home. He's still pissed. How do I soothe things over?