Anonymous wrote:I am a female that uses my middle name. It is much harder for people to accept for a female than a male. I wish my parents would have legally reversed my name as a child and I’m strongly considering the process myself if I get remarried.

I’m the pp who posted about her mom. I agree with you about changing it legally. I kinda wonder if the people saying to not bother have any personal experience with someone going exclusively by their middle name.

My mother only used her middle name. I’ll say it was a challenge at times. Even when she died, we had to correct the funeral home to put up her middle name instead of her legal first one. If you feel strongly about it, I’d make the effort to legally change it now.

Anonymous wrote:This is OP, thank you everyone! I honestly have no intention of changing her legal name as it seems like a pain and this is still her name! Now I'm wondering about the legal stuff

OP, I think you brought up the legal issue because you said change the name instead of call her by her middle name. This is pretty common and doesn’t warrant a legal change unless you really wanted it. If you do want it, a legal name change is easy, however, there is no need at all for it.

I am a female that uses my middle name. It is much harder for people to accept for a female than a male. I wish my parents would have legally reversed my name as a child and I’m strongly considering the process myself if I get remarried.

This is OP, thank you everyone! I honestly have no intention of changing her legal name as it seems like a pain and this is still her name! Now I'm wondering about the legal stuff

My brother has gone by his middle name his entire life. Very few people use his first name.

Just switch it now, OP. Whether you change it legally or not isn't a big deal really. You sign her up for things and note the "preferred name". It isn't a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a ton of people who go by their middle names. Like 4 of my coworkers on a hall of maybe 20 people. It's not a big deal.

I wouldn't change it legally because of the hassle but if you're just calling her that, eh.

Change it legally. At this age it’s super easy and straightforward. You don’t want to deal with school, doctors, activities for the next couple decades calling her the wrong name. Change it legally or decide you’re okay with people calling her either name.

The jne thing I worry about is all those forms that require you to list prior names. If she has to list that on every form ever, that's going to be a pain. Speak to an attorney to make sure the implications are clear.

That seems like a smaller hassle than correcting every teacher, coworker, doctor for the next 80+ years. I’d change it now, OP!

I would not legally change it, just call her by her middle name . I can think of a number of kids in the school where I work who go by their middle names. The worst thing that might happen is they will be called by their first name until the child corrects the person, then they will be called by their preferred name, whether it's their middle name or just a nickname. No big deal.

I would legally change it. Agree it is so so so much easier to do it now than later. I have a friend who named her daughter Kelly, and legally changed it to what she wanted to name her, Kaila, when she was 1. Luckily her daughter responded to the new name, but I wouldn’t waste more time on your decision because it could confuse your child. Best to do it now before she truly knows and can say her own name.

If you don’t want to tell family or friends about the legal change for any reason, just say “We’re calling her by her middle name Grace instead of Avery. Please call her Grace.” Repeat ad nauseum.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a ton of people who go by their middle names. Like 4 of my coworkers on a hall of maybe 20 people. It's not a big deal.

I wouldn't change it legally because of the hassle but if you're just calling her that, eh.

Change it legally. At this age it’s super easy and straightforward. You don’t want to deal with school, doctors, activities for the next couple decades calling her the wrong name. Change it legally or decide you’re okay with people calling her either name.

The jne thing I worry about is all those forms that require you to list prior names. If she has to list that on every form ever, that's going to be a pain. Speak to an attorney to make sure the implications are clear.

Anonymous wrote:I know a ton of people who go by their middle names. Like 4 of my coworkers on a hall of maybe 20 people. It's not a big deal.

I wouldn't change it legally because of the hassle but if you're just calling her that, eh.

Change it legally. At this age it’s super easy and straightforward. You don’t want to deal with school, doctors, activities for the next couple decades calling her the wrong name. Change it legally or decide you’re okay with people calling her either name.

I know a ton of people who go by their middle names. Like 4 of my coworkers on a hall of maybe 20 people. It's not a big deal.

I wouldn't change it legally because of the hassle but if you're just calling her that, eh.

Do it now or forget about it. She won’t remember.

DO IT!

been there done that. Your happiness is all that matters.

I wanted to name my baby a name and my mom talked me out of it so we used it as her middle name.

10 months in, I'm still thinking about it. Her name just doesn't seem to suit her. I was thinking of just calling her her middle name, which was the one I wanted in the first place. Crazy? DH seems to be whatever about it.