Anonymous
09/16/2020 14:50
Subject: XH, COVID & Kids
Most people have the oppositve problem. Ex-spouses going on playdates (inside) and not taking precautions. I don't think you have much grounds for taking him to court.
Anonymous
09/16/2020 14:48
Subject: XH, COVID & Kids
Anonymous wrote:He doesn't have a yard? The kids are really never leaving the house when they are staying with him?
I don't think there is much you can do. He's not endangering the kids. You can expect that he won't denigrate you or your approach, and that he won't try to freak the kids out. But you can't make him take them for walks.
he actually has a huge yard, but doesn't take the kids out - and complains that the kids won't go out without him.
yes - he seems to be casting my decisions about outside play as being "risky" to the kids, which makes taking them outside more difficult (I still do it though).
Anonymous
09/16/2020 14:44
Subject: XH, COVID & Kids
He doesn't have a yard? The kids are really never leaving the house when they are staying with him?
I don't think there is much you can do. He's not endangering the kids. You can expect that he won't denigrate you or your approach, and that he won't try to freak the kids out. But you can't make him take them for walks.
I don't think there is much you can do. He's not endangering the kids. You can expect that he won't denigrate you or your approach, and that he won't try to freak the kids out. But you can't make him take them for walks.
Anonymous
09/16/2020 14:40
Subject: XH, COVID & Kids
XH and I have 50-50 custody of our DS (5 and 10). Since mid-March, XH has only left his property once, though he has had several socially distanced visits outside.
He refuses to take the kids for walks until there is a vaccine. So with XH, kids are not getting exercise, fresh air, or "practice" with normal, less risky behavior. In the meantime, my older son has been experiencing increased anxiety (much around COVID risks) and both kids have no social interaction outside of themselves and online stuff. I take them for walks outside, which seems "risky" to my older son, though we follow conservative guidelines (masks, hand sanitizer, staying away from people unless briefly passing).
I don't think XH's extreme position is good, and that it is doing more damage to the kids (and him) than good given the very minimal risk of getting COVID outside when practicing mask-wearing and social distancing.
Suggestions on how to deal with this? Other than taking him to court (not sure that would be effective anyway).
He refuses to take the kids for walks until there is a vaccine. So with XH, kids are not getting exercise, fresh air, or "practice" with normal, less risky behavior. In the meantime, my older son has been experiencing increased anxiety (much around COVID risks) and both kids have no social interaction outside of themselves and online stuff. I take them for walks outside, which seems "risky" to my older son, though we follow conservative guidelines (masks, hand sanitizer, staying away from people unless briefly passing).
I don't think XH's extreme position is good, and that it is doing more damage to the kids (and him) than good given the very minimal risk of getting COVID outside when practicing mask-wearing and social distancing.
Suggestions on how to deal with this? Other than taking him to court (not sure that would be effective anyway).