Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:30     Subject: Re:My husband is fat and he does not care
tell him you will have more sex with him if he loses weight. But only if you mean it.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:29     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What height and weight is he? Approximately.


6’ and 225lbs

That doesn’t sound all that overweight for 6 ft. My 6 ft DH went down to 180 after an illness and looked quite gaunt. He usually maintains around 200 lb and doesn’t look fat.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:22     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Anonymous wrote:Get that man a beer


Are you fat too?
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:17     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Get that man a beer
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:08     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Gross.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:07     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Anonymous wrote:Have you told him you're not in the mood because of his weight?


This. If he ask you, tell him the truth.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:03     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve tried both being subtle and explicitly telling him he needs to lose weight. He needs to lose 30-40lbs. I have always been a healthy weight but the last few months, not wanting to be hypercritical, started regularly working out. Well now I’m in very good shape and...he’s still overweight with zero motivation to lose it. I thought maybe he would want to work out with me if he saw me working hard and we could make it a couples thing but no. Then he wonders why I’m never in the mood to have sex.

I love him and don’t ever see myself cheating or leaving him over this - I just had to vent my frustration somewhere. The double standard between men and women is not fair. I don’t think he’s depressed. Just hates exercise and loves ice cream. Oh well.


30/40 is a big number. It will takes its toll if nothing is done.


Yes and as he nears 50 I worry about his health.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:03     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Anonymous wrote:What height and weight is he? Approximately.


6’ and 225lbs
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 20:03     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Anonymous wrote:I’ve tried both being subtle and explicitly telling him he needs to lose weight. He needs to lose 30-40lbs. I have always been a healthy weight but the last few months, not wanting to be hypercritical, started regularly working out. Well now I’m in very good shape and...he’s still overweight with zero motivation to lose it. I thought maybe he would want to work out with me if he saw me working hard and we could make it a couples thing but no. Then he wonders why I’m never in the mood to have sex.

I love him and don’t ever see myself cheating or leaving him over this - I just had to vent my frustration somewhere. The double standard between men and women is not fair. I don’t think he’s depressed. Just hates exercise and loves ice cream. Oh well.


30/40 is a big number. It will takes its toll if nothing is done.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 18:45     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
What height and weight is he? Approximately.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 18:38     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Anonymous wrote:You still love him, so there is that. You started out trying to be all tough but it turns out you are a little marshmallow.


(I think he is the marshmallow )
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 18:37     Subject: Re:My husband is fat and he does not care
Stop being so controlling. He doesn’t “need” to do what you want. It’s his body.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 18:31     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
You still love him, so there is that. You started out trying to be all tough but it turns out you are a little marshmallow.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 18:31     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
Have you told him you're not in the mood because of his weight?
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2020 18:29     Subject: My husband is fat and he does not care
I’ve tried both being subtle and explicitly telling him he needs to lose weight. He needs to lose 30-40lbs. I have always been a healthy weight but the last few months, not wanting to be hypercritical, started regularly working out. Well now I’m in very good shape and...he’s still overweight with zero motivation to lose it. I thought maybe he would want to work out with me if he saw me working hard and we could make it a couples thing but no. Then he wonders why I’m never in the mood to have sex.

I love him and don’t ever see myself cheating or leaving him over this - I just had to vent my frustration somewhere. The double standard between men and women is not fair. I don’t think he’s depressed. Just hates exercise and loves ice cream. Oh well.