It wouldn’t work for me but if it works for you, great

My 12 yr old still wants me to sing to her and kiss her goodnight.

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Thank you. The poster making me realize I need to relish it.
-OP

Seriously OP, that's so sweet. There's no 16 year olds wanting their parents to sing to them, enjoy it while it lasts!

She’s on the cusp of the teenage years. Savor it while it lasts!!

My parents used to sing to us before we went to bed instead of story, it went on well beyond toddlerhood, it ended before I was a teen, but I don't remember exactly when.

I'm sure if my friends knew they would have teased me about it.

My dad is gone now, and it's one of my favorite memories of him.

I don't have real advice, other than if you both don't mind don't stop it will be a special memory for her one day.

Consider yourself lucky, OP. Seriously. She will be off to college in 8 years. So the singing will stop at some point between now and 8 years from now. And once it stops, it won't be coming back. Enjoy every moment of it.

I have 12 year old twins who could fall asleep without a tuck in, but demand it nearly every night. They’re in separate rooms, so I have to do two separate tuck ins. One wants to snuggle and get a back rub and ask me questions. The other wants in depth one-on-one conversation with no distractions. Sometimes I’m tired and I tell them that they only get 5 minutes each, but mostly I try to give them this quality time because one day this phase of our lives will be over and then we won’t even sleep under the same roof anymore for the rest of our lives.

Anonymous wrote:I read to my 12 year old every night and will continue as long as she wants.

not the same thing as “ having to sing to your kid” ..... OP my parenting mantra..... if it works for you it’s ok to keep doing it. If it’s not working for you need to make a change. My 8yo falls asleep by herself after reading. I still read to her but then I leave. She reads and puts her light out. That’s what works for me. Even as a baby I did drowsy but awake because having to rock, sing, cuddle my child to sleep isn’t for me.

I read to my 12 year old every night and will continue as long as she wants.

My 11 year old still needs snuggles sometimes. I’m not complaining. It can’t last.

Ferber chapter 4 sleep associations. Her friends will tell her it’s weird or she’ll suspect it’s weird and tell you to stop one day. Also means she doesn’t have another parent in the picture that ever puts her to bed? But yes sweet thing between you two.

During a pandemic is not the time to phase out.

Sometimes I think it’s weird and need to phase it out and other times I think it’s sweet and I need to hang onto it.
Thoughts?