My husbands diagnosed mental illness.

I don't hide stuff about my marriage. I don't blab it from the rooftops, but I'm honest with friends about our arguments and disagreements, even issues in our sex life. All that stuff is normal -- my friends have the same issues. We'v all been married a long time. We don't just trash our spouses to each other, but we'll definitely share stuff like disagreements over a big move or how hard it was to get our sex life going again after kids (it was hard!). I always feel better when I share this stuff because usually people are supportive and often can relate.

No marriage is perfect. It's normal to have disagreements or go through rough patches. Even if you can't confide in your friends and family, consider talking to a therapist about it. Carrying it around like it's shameful (it's not, it's normal) can't be good.

You sound very dysfunctional. Why don’t you use that hotel fund for couples therapy.

My partner's PTSD and depression

Anonymous wrote:I'll go first. DH and I argue a lot and have an annual fund for hotels for when we are pissed and don't to stay at home. We also have to cancel outings with our friends regularly due to fighting.

+1. But it has gotten a lot better with time. Married almost 20 years. The first 10 were pretty rocky.

That my Aspie husband has no interest in friends or socializing, that he's very self-centered and cares nothing for social niceties.

Obviously my closest friends realize some of this, but none of us explicitly talk about it. What would be the use? He's in his 50s and not going to change.

There's nothing ugly we're hiding. What you see is what you get.

How for years I have been seething about living in a city I hate because their family is here. And now that the parents are sick, I won't be leaving for a while.

We keep our sex life very private! I can't say it's ugly but it's not film worthy due to bad lighting and limited sound due to children in the next room.

Nothing. I could make up stuff though.

Neither of us has ever done breakfast in bed. We find the whole idea messy and disgusting.

My husband would be happy on a diet consisting only of pizza and burgers. I'm not the healthiest cook, but I'm proud to have improved his diet significantly from when he was single.

It makes me pleased that we've both gained a little weight since marriage. I figure he likes my food and is content.

Hide from who?? I don't have a public marriage. It's already all private.

Nothing to hide unless my husband is hiding something from me! If he is I will raise hell!

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. Sorry. I wish we were that interesting / dramatic.

Same except I don't wish we were more dramatic because that usually means there are big problems that you're hiding like OP.

In a marriage, boring usually means good because neither party has issues with the other.

Nothing. Sorry. I wish we were that interesting / dramatic.

I'll go first. DH and I argue a lot and have an annual fund for hotels for when we are pissed and don't to stay at home. We also have to cancel outings with our friends regularly due to fighting.