Anonymous
09/02/2020 06:45
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
It depends on where you live. If you live in fly-over country its often a sign of religious devoutness. That or poverty. On the coasts, it could be a symptom of a blended family - each with their own set of kids. Or wealth.
In the UK and other parts of Europe its a sign of poverty. More kids = more handouts.
In the UK and other parts of Europe its a sign of poverty. More kids = more handouts.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 06:37
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:We are UMC and are due with our 4th, but it's a religious choice for us, nothing to do with how much we earn. We believe God will provide and plan to home school if our life changes and we can't afford private.
Lots of room in your bunker?
Anonymous
09/02/2020 06:36
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Yes. My sister lives in a really rich area and is a public school teacher. She does but have it but a few of her friends had trust funds from old money that pays every kid they have. Back in 1980s my sister friend got 125k each birth and college was paid for
Anonymous
09/02/2020 05:28
Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:No, not really. Maybe I’m just not cynical, but I think people with big families just enjoy having a big family for whatever reason. Could be healthy reasons or not but I don’t think anyone has a fourth kid just to flex on their neighbors or Facebook friends and prove they’ve made it. Plus I live outside of the DC area bubble and I know scads of MC and LMC families with 3+ kids.
+1
-parent of 4+ who go to public and thinks it’s funny people consider kids status symbols. It couldn’t be further from the truth in my family.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 05:18
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
I know two types of families who have 4 kids. Very wealthy and very Catholic.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 05:18
Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Umm most of the families with large numbers of this kids in this area are depending on either the public school or homeschooling to educate their kids.
Hence the freakout that DMV schools are all virtual for the year. They didn't budget for the costs of keeping these kids at home or hiring 'pods' to help teach them.
When you can afford to send 4+ kids to private school for 18 years then yes, its a status symbol.
That is an odd comment since the majority of all families depend on public schools for education, regardless of the number of children.
For the UC or the truly wealthy private schools are the status symbols, not the number of kids (although you must be able to afford privates for all of them). KellyAnne Conway's kids (all four of them) have been enrolled in private schools their whole lives. Maria Shriver's four kids? All private all the way.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 05:01
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
We are UMC and are due with our 4th, but it's a religious choice for us, nothing to do with how much we earn. We believe God will provide and plan to home school if our life changes and we can't afford private.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 04:49
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
It seems like the wealthy law firm partner families have four or five kids, and the lower middle class or working class families. Regular middle class families have one or two.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 04:45
Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:Umm most of the families with large numbers of this kids in this area are depending on either the public school or homeschooling to educate their kids.
Hence the freakout that DMV schools are all virtual for the year. They didn't budget for the costs of keeping these kids at home or hiring 'pods' to help teach them.
When you can afford to send 4+ kids to private school for 18 years then yes, its a status symbol.
That is an odd comment since the majority of all families depend on public schools for education, regardless of the number of children.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 04:05
Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Umm most of the families with large numbers of this kids in this area are depending on either the public school or homeschooling to educate their kids.
Hence the freakout that DMV schools are all virtual for the year. They didn't budget for the costs of keeping these kids at home or hiring 'pods' to help teach them.
When you can afford to send 4+ kids to private school for 18 years then yes, its a status symbol.
Hence the freakout that DMV schools are all virtual for the year. They didn't budget for the costs of keeping these kids at home or hiring 'pods' to help teach them.
When you can afford to send 4+ kids to private school for 18 years then yes, its a status symbol.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 03:57
Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Most of the families with 4+ kids are blended in every area I've been too. So its a status symbol of broken marriages.
I know one woman with 11 kids! She had 5 kids with the first husband, they divorced, and I guess she decided she needed just as many from the second to have him stay.
I know one woman with 11 kids! She had 5 kids with the first husband, they divorced, and I guess she decided she needed just as many from the second to have him stay.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 03:48
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Yes
Anonymous
09/02/2020 03:46
Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
No, not really. Maybe I’m just not cynical, but I think people with big families just enjoy having a big family for whatever reason. Could be healthy reasons or not but I don’t think anyone has a fourth kid just to flex on their neighbors or Facebook friends and prove they’ve made it. Plus I live outside of the DC area bubble and I know scads of MC and LMC families with 3+ kids.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 03:44
Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
3 kids is really common in my expensive neighborhood, much more so than among my wider friend group. I think people who don’t have to worry about money will go for the third kid more often. 4+ kids is still very rare. That seems like a more specific choice based on more than just money concerns.
Anonymous
09/02/2020 03:33
Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
I’ve noticed in my UMC area that having 4+ kids is the new status symbol, it’s mostly the wealthier families that do it and do t have to give a second though to providing college or paying for several kids at once in pricey camps or private school!