Anonymous wrote:Read him a book at bedtime

+1 How are you putting him to bed? It's nice to imagine just putting them down and considering yourself off the clock but most kids don't go to sleep that easily. Only one of my kids went right to sleep and didn't want anyone fussing over him. usually kids need attention as they go to sleep. Reading, rubbing their back, spending time with them, etc.

Don’t skip nap. I would aim for 7pm bedtime and not lie with him anymore. It sounds cruel, but what you’re doing for 2 hours every night is causing him anxiety—how long can I get mom to stay here, I need mom to fall asleep, why is mom leaving again? You need to set the expectation that he can fall asleep on his own. 2 nights with graduated checks that get longer by 3-6 minutes each time and I bet you’ll be done. Some kids just can’t have the negative sleep association of someone there helping them fall asleep without it causing anxiety at that age.

Read him a book at bedtime

My kid never needed a lot of sleep but it sounds like its time to get rid of the crib if he's climbing out as that is a huge safety issue. Hard no on crib tents. They have been banned for a reason. Put the crib mattress on the floor, bolt down all the furniture to the wall, get rid of anything he can use to climb or hurt himself and baby gate at the door.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t skip the nap yet. 12 hours is a long time to go with no rest at his age. Keep his midday nap to one hour and start the bedtime routine at 6:45 or 7:00 so he is lights out, quieting down by 7:15 at the latest. I haven’t had to use this myself yet, but a friend recommended a crib tent for keeping kids in their cribs at night. It’s safe and makes it impossible for them to climb out apparently.

This.
I know it may seem counterintuitive, but sleep research in children shows that “the more they sleep, the more they sleep!” Meaning your child likely needs MORE hours of sleep rather than fewer. 2 is too you g to drop the nap and you won’t make it to 7 without him being a cranky mess!
The Kim West book recommendation is a good one.

I wouldn’t skip the nap yet. 12 hours is a long time to go with no rest at his age. Keep his midday nap to one hour and start the bedtime routine at 6:45 or 7:00 so he is lights out, quieting down by 7:15 at the latest. I haven’t had to use this myself yet, but a friend recommended a crib tent for keeping kids in their cribs at night. It’s safe and makes it impossible for them to climb out apparently.

Thanks everyone. I may skip his nap and do bedtime at 7.

Parenthood. This will a phase and will stop eventually.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like either over tired or under tired. Try putting him to bed early and see if it's an over tired issue. If that doesn't help, try skipping the nap and putting him to bed earlier, like at 7. See how well he handles it. Some kids drop naps early, unfortunately.

Aim for bedtime at 7, is what I meant. So start earlier with the book/bedtime routine.

Sounds like either over tired or under tired. Try putting him to bed early and see if it's an over tired issue. If that doesn't help, try skipping the nap and putting him to bed earlier, like at 7. See how well he handles it. Some kids drop naps early, unfortunately.

"Good Night, Sleep Tight" by Kim West

Order it today. Read the chapter that applies to 2 year olds, implement. The problem will literally be done by this weekend.

Good luck OP!

PP again, toddler need average of 11 to 14 hours if sleep in a day. Your child is at the lower end.

Op, try moving bed time to 7. Use a lovey and don't lay next to him. He needs longer nap... 2 hours would be better, I think he could be over tired by 7:50.

Maybe he’s ready to drop the nap. My kids both did at 2.5.

27 month old runs out of crib and bangs on door screaming and wailing every night.
He wakes up 7:00, does half day preschool which ends at 12 and we do lunch and 1 hour nap , then we usually do an afternoon activity with siblings. He eats at 5:30-6, bathtime, 5-6 books, white noise machine. I start trying for bed at 7:50 or so and it takes a full hour to get him down. I rub his back and lay down next to his crib and sing to him. He just screams bloody murder for someone to come get him from his room. He has a little monkey lock, which opens the door 5-6 inches for his safety so he doesn't walk around at night.