Ghosting is seriously the worst.

The last guy I dated before I met DH ghosted me after about a month - maybe 4-5 dates. We had mutual friends so the likelihood of seeing each other in the future was high (and we in fact have been at many social events together over the years).

Anyway I called him out on it. I said it’s not a big deal to not want to date, but it is a dick move and totally disrespectful to not even send a ‘I don’t think this is going to work out’ text. I’m sure that conversation was way more uncomfortable for him than telling me he didn’t want to date me would have been. I know it wasn’t a “cool” thing to do, but all these years later I’m still proud of myself for doing it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He clearly sucks. It is very risky to have sex with someone you’ve only gone on three dates with if you are not OK with being ghosted after sex. Wait longer next time so you have a better feel for how good of a guy he is. If you’re OK with having sex with someone and then having him ghost you do what you want but if this hurt your feelings a lot I would wait longer and deeper and longer before putting yourself out there like that

I am dictating. I’m not sure how deepEr got in there. I basically meant to say go on more dates before sex.

That was a funny typo! Longer, deeper, longer...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He clearly sucks. It is very risky to have sex with someone you’ve only gone on three dates with if you are not OK with being ghosted after sex. Wait longer next time so you have a better feel for how good of a guy he is. If you’re OK with having sex with someone and then having him ghost you do what you want but if this hurt your feelings a lot I would wait longer and deeper and longer before putting yourself out there like that

I am dictating. I’m not sure how deepEr got in there. I basically meant to say go on more dates before sex.

I posted this. Also, he clearly is not a good guy. Even if he decided he did not want to see you again, you guys had sex, and he should not have just ghosted you after that. That means he is a jerk. There are some guys online who just want to have sex and then not date anyone again or just have sex but not in a relationship. Or maybe they want more with the right woman, but they are totally willing to sleep with others super quickly even if they aren’t into the woman. One way to weed these guys out is to go on more dates before having sex. If he just wants easy sex, he might give up. Also, you get to know them better and you may decide you don’t like him anyway, or vice versa.

He is a jerk.Forget him.

He got what he wanted OP. Sorry.

that's a bummer, I'm sorry OP.

Anonymous wrote:Either you or the sex didn't turn out to be exactly what he wanted. It's not personal even if it feels like it. Move on.

Of course it’s personal. That’s why it sucks.

What a jerk, I’m sorry.

You made it way too easy for him to get what he wanted. Dinner at his place on the third date? First time sex is rarely great but if a guy really likes you he will come back for more.

Charge it to the game. It suckes, but move on. Remove his number from your cellphone.

Either you or the sex didn't turn out to be exactly what he wanted. It's not personal even if it feels like it. Move on.

Anonymous wrote:He clearly sucks. It is very risky to have sex with someone you’ve only gone on three dates with if you are not OK with being ghosted after sex. Wait longer next time so you have a better feel for how good of a guy he is. If you’re OK with having sex with someone and then having him ghost you do what you want but if this hurt your feelings a lot I would wait longer and deeper and longer before putting yourself out there like that

I am dictating. I’m not sure how deepEr got in there. I basically meant to say go on more dates before sex.

He clearly sucks. It is very risky to have sex with someone you’ve only gone on three dates with if you are not OK with being ghosted after sex. Wait longer next time so you have a better feel for how good of a guy he is. If you’re OK with having sex with someone and then having him ghost you do what you want but if this hurt your feelings a lot I would wait longer and deeper and longer before putting yourself out there like that

Sorry. It sucks.

I had a third date with a guy I liked. We hit it off and things were going well. He seemed very interested and texted me in between dates. He cooked me dinner and we had sex last weekend and I haven’t heard from him again. I texted him once to say I had a great time and nothing. I’m sure it was just sex for him but it sucks. I really liked him and thought he was interested.