Anonymous
08/20/2020 14:45
Subject: Re:Do other kids do this?
Anonymous wrote:I once sent my five year old up to his room, and a few minutes later had a knock on the door from a neighbor/friend. Apparently, my son had opened the window and was calling through the screen for someone to help him. His mother had LOCKED him away with no food or water.
Sorry to laugh at your pain, but thanks for sharing! 
Anonymous
08/20/2020 14:44
Subject: Re:Do other kids do this?
Implement Planned ignoring.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 14:37
Subject: Re:Do other kids do this?
I once sent my five year old up to his room, and a few minutes later had a knock on the door from a neighbor/friend. Apparently, my son had opened the window and was calling through the screen for someone to help him. His mother had LOCKED him away with no food or water.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 14:34
Subject: Do other kids do this?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Take the power away and say, "Ok. Please do tell about me."
My 5 year old doesn't do this, but I don't think it would be wildly out of character.
I agree.
I think I have even told older kids some version of, “do you really think foster care is going to be better than living here?”
A 5 year old doesn't know what foster care is. Don't do that to them. You aren't 5 and you need to ack like the adult. Its ok to say, if you feel you need to, go ahead. But don't threaten them with foster care.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 14:30
Subject: Re:Do other kids do this?
Ha! So normal. I used to tell on my mother to HER mother.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 14:27
Subject: Do other kids do this?
Totally normal. He doesn’t know about CPS, etc - he is just parroting what people tell him.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 13:19
Subject: Do other kids do this?
“Sounds good” “ok” “you do that, let me know what they say!”
Be confident in your discipline choices—kids sense when you aren’t and try to wear you down. The more calm you are, the better. Don’t react to their little missives—they’ll learn to do it again if they sense a reaction.
Be confident in your discipline choices—kids sense when you aren’t and try to wear you down. The more calm you are, the better. Don’t react to their little missives—they’ll learn to do it again if they sense a reaction.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:28
Subject: Do other kids do this?
Totally normal. I don't know how many times Santa has heard about my bad behavior.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:22
Subject: Do other kids do this?
I got uninvited to future birthday parties. 
Just say ok, OP. That’s like the worst threat he can think of, it’s kind of cute, really.
Just say ok, OP. That’s like the worst threat he can think of, it’s kind of cute, really.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:19
Subject: Do other kids do this?
Anonymous wrote:Take the power away and say, "Ok. Please do tell about me."
My 5 year old doesn't do this, but I don't think it would be wildly out of character.
I agree.
I think I have even told older kids some version of, “do you really think foster care is going to be better than living here?”
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:12
Subject: Do other kids do this?
Anonymous wrote:When I correct and am firm/stern with my 5 year old, he says, “I’m going to tell —- about you!” Sometimes he’s threatening to tell the neighbors or his babysitter or some other kid’s parent. It doesn’t happen very often but this morning he said it for what is probably the 10th time this summer. It feels like he’d say to another child and so is incredibly disrespectful. It makes me feel like I need to rethink my approach to parenting. Is this just something kids say? Is it a phase? Or is it a huge red flag?
FWIW—I think he has complained about me to a certain parent in our neighborhood. I’m not overly concerned about this. I am not a harsh parent and I think anyone whose opinion matters can figure that out.
It doesn't seem like a huge red flag to me. My four-year old imitates my discipline when she's upset with me. The other day she told me she "needed to talk about my behavior." She definitely threatens to call stuffed animals mommies when they misbehave, although she's never done that to me. I assume she picked that line up from daycare.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:09
Subject: Re:Do other kids do this?
Sounds normal to me. When my 6 yo is upset with me, he says he's going to put me in time out, or he tells me that I am not following the rules, and if I don't do X before he counts to 3.....
Wishful thinking about who's in charge?
Kids say things like that when they're upset. I just try to stay calm, and say I'm the adult and I make the rules. You are going to do X now. When you are an adult, you can make your own rules, but right now you are a kid.
Wishful thinking about who's in charge?
Kids say things like that when they're upset. I just try to stay calm, and say I'm the adult and I make the rules. You are going to do X now. When you are an adult, you can make your own rules, but right now you are a kid.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:06
Subject: Do other kids do this?
OP here— my goodness I made a lot of errors typing my previous message. I’m not drunk—it’s just been a long day.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:05
Subject: Do other kids do this?
Take the power away and say, "Ok. Please do tell about me."
My 5 year old doesn't do this, but I don't think it would be wildly out of character.
My 5 year old doesn't do this, but I don't think it would be wildly out of character.
Anonymous
08/20/2020 11:04
Subject: Do other kids do this?
When I correct and am firm/stern with my 5 year old, he says, “I’m going to tell —- about you!” Sometimes he’s threatening to tell the neighbors or his babysitter or some other kid’s parent. It doesn’t happen very often but this morning he said it for what is probably the 10th time this summer. It feels like he’d say to another child and so is incredibly disrespectful. It makes me feel like I need to rethink my approach to parenting. Is this just something kids say? Is it a phase? Or is it a huge red flag?
FWIW—I think he has complained about me to a certain parent in our neighborhood. I’m not overly concerned about this. I am not a harsh parent and I think anyone whose opinion matters can figure that out.
FWIW—I think he has complained about me to a certain parent in our neighborhood. I’m not overly concerned about this. I am not a harsh parent and I think anyone whose opinion matters can figure that out.