Anonymous
08/18/2020 20:29
Subject: I’m losing it as a parent
1 hr/day screen time
+ 1hr/day independent play and don’t talk to me unless you are bleeding
+1hr high quality together time.
+20 minutes you jogging around the block alone.
I feel you. The constant talking is exhausting.
+ 1hr/day independent play and don’t talk to me unless you are bleeding
+1hr high quality together time.
+20 minutes you jogging around the block alone.
I feel you. The constant talking is exhausting.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 20:27
Subject: I’m losing it as a parent
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m so thankful you’re all saying screens are ok. I’ve fought myself over this, but I’ve been pretty much a free for all this past week. I’m thinking I may be ok with that until school starts.
1 or 2 hours of daily screen time during a pandemic will not harm anyone. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Neither will 3-4 hours on a bad day. Give yourself a break.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 20:25
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
Get a good babysitter to take her out if the house for two hours a couple times a week. The sitter doesn’t have to come in and will stay masked as will your DD. If you have a yard or a park nearby they can play there.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 20:23
Subject: I’m losing it as a parent
Your child has to learn 1) boundaries, and 2) how to spend some solo time (so you can too, but mostly because it is a life skill).
If you have to, set a schedule: 1 hour of independent reading in your own space; 2 hour of screens; 1 hour of creative time alone and one together. Something like that. For boundaries, set and teach polite rules about interrupting and what it means to wait for an appropriate time -- respecting others' concentration and project times.
If you have to, set a schedule: 1 hour of independent reading in your own space; 2 hour of screens; 1 hour of creative time alone and one together. Something like that. For boundaries, set and teach polite rules about interrupting and what it means to wait for an appropriate time -- respecting others' concentration and project times.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 20:16
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
I'm just chilling out right now reading this forum. We have a 4 year old, our only child. I work full time and my spouse is with her all day. I'm introverted and need my " sanity alone time". It's really hard. I wake on weekends so early, just to have " me time" before our child wakes up. Because she's the only child- we parents have to play all day long with her. I hear you- it's not easy. We don't have any family close by to help, either.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 20:01
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
Anonymous wrote:Tell your 9yo she has to read in her room for an hour every day. My 8yo has to read 30 mins, it gives me time to read the newspaper. Go out for a walk every morning, yes my kid is with me but she’s not mentally draining me if we are outside and both getting exercise and fresh air. If you are not doing screens, screens are ok. Maybe reward the 60 mins of reading with X amount of screen time.
This is a great idea! I feel your pain. I had three in diapers at the same time-------one then twins when he was less than three. It's exhausting for many years. Teenagers can even sometimes be worse (now teaching two teens to drive--that's stressful....)
take care of yourself first, then you'll be better with her. What about teaching her to cook with you? That has been great for years with my daughter
Anonymous
08/18/2020 19:57
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
Anonymous wrote:Tell your 9yo she has to read in her room for an hour every day. My 8yo has to read 30 mins, it gives me time to read the newspaper. Go out for a walk every morning, yes my kid is with me but she’s not mentally draining me if we are outside and both getting exercise and fresh air. If you are not doing screens, screens are ok. Maybe reward the 60 mins of reading with X amount of screen time.
+1
My nine year old has independent activities like reading for a set time and workbook pages. It’s not negotiable.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 19:49
Subject: I’m losing it as a parent
Anonymous wrote:I’m so thankful you’re all saying screens are ok. I’ve fought myself over this, but I’ve been pretty much a free for all this past week. I’m thinking I may be ok with that until school starts.
1 or 2 hours of daily screen time during a pandemic will not harm anyone. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 19:28
Subject: I’m losing it as a parent
I’m so thankful you’re all saying screens are ok. I’ve fought myself over this, but I’ve been pretty much a free for all this past week. I’m thinking I may be ok with that until school starts.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 19:22
Subject: I’m losing it as a parent
I felt this way for years. I loved getting up early or staying up late to steal some time to myself. Just accept it. It's hard for introverts. Have your DD spend some time reading or on screens or TV, or something else she enjoys every day.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 19:07
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
Tell your 9yo she has to read in her room for an hour every day. My 8yo has to read 30 mins, it gives me time to read the newspaper. Go out for a walk every morning, yes my kid is with me but she’s not mentally draining me if we are outside and both getting exercise and fresh air. If you are not doing screens, screens are ok. Maybe reward the 60 mins of reading with X amount of screen time.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 19:02
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
My husband is exposed daily at work (potentially) and we can’t in good faith do this. My parents refuse because of this same reason. ILs live away. I’m so burnt out I’m thinking of leaving her home with a phone and just driving my car around.
This is silly. I know (and am related to) multiple doctors (currently working in hospitals), and they all have child care. Absolutely disclose fully your exposure to any potential hires, but they can assess their own risk and/or wear a mask.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 18:58
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
Anonymous wrote:Get help. 1-2 days, of a couple hours will not break the bank, nor pose undue risk of contagion (basically 1/2 the people I know have a babysitter/ nanny and/or are doing camp ... to no ill effect. And even if it does break the bank, this is likely only another 4-8 months; it may be a worthy investment.
My husband is exposed daily at work (potentially) and we can’t in good faith do this. My parents refuse because of this same reason. ILs live away. I’m so burnt out I’m thinking of leaving her home with a phone and just driving my car around.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 18:55
Subject: Re:I’m losing it as a parent
Get help. 1-2 days, of a couple hours will not break the bank, nor pose undue risk of contagion (basically 1/2 the people I know have a babysitter/ nanny and/or are doing camp ... to no ill effect. And even if it does break the bank, this is likely only another 4-8 months; it may be a worthy investment.
Anonymous
08/18/2020 18:50
Subject: I’m losing it as a parent
I need to vent, maybe get some advice.
I think I’m starting to lose it. DD9 is sweet, but very overbearing. I never have a moment’s peace. I get it, this is hard for her, too. She’s an only child and has no other playmates other than me. I’m laid off, probably permanently, and with distance learning, I have no plans to look for something new. DH works 12 hour days with an hour commute. When he comes home, he obviously is tired and wants to just chill. He’s helpful, but I’m also exhausted.
I stay up late because it’s the only time I have alone. I get up early for the same reason. I’m always tired. I’m honestly exhausted being a parent. What can I do?
I think I’m starting to lose it. DD9 is sweet, but very overbearing. I never have a moment’s peace. I get it, this is hard for her, too. She’s an only child and has no other playmates other than me. I’m laid off, probably permanently, and with distance learning, I have no plans to look for something new. DH works 12 hour days with an hour commute. When he comes home, he obviously is tired and wants to just chill. He’s helpful, but I’m also exhausted.
I stay up late because it’s the only time I have alone. I get up early for the same reason. I’m always tired. I’m honestly exhausted being a parent. What can I do?