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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Hmm, and there's no other conversations during the date?

Are you usually dating men about your age/income bracket?

There is other conversations ...like about his week, what kinds of things he likes to do on the weekend, favorite books/movies, etc. I try to keep things light and try to get to know someone. And I really don’t know their income bracket but generally I date guys 2-7 years older and most have professional type jobs.

I can’t believe this is actually an issue. I’m about your age with a second home, a decent career and a very high net worth and have never had any issues with men being turned off, intimidated or whatever about it. I don’t make a big deal out if it. I don’t wear it on my sleeve but I don’t hide it. I think it’s weird if anyone is actually ghosting you for that reason. There’s got to be a better reason.

On the flip side my XH is a huge gold digger and it was a big plus for him when the woman he was dating was wealthy. So if anything I think you’d be attracting more men, not repelling them. So it has to be something else.

Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Hmm, and there's no other conversations during the date?

Are you usually dating men about your age/income bracket?

It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Sorry, I am a woman and know you are asking men, but I am so confused. Don't all the things you listed make you a catch? Isn't that what men, especially in the careerist DC area, want?

How do this conversations play out?

Caan you given an example?

I'm guessing it's not the money, but the delivery that's off putting.

I get that but I am asked out so I pass some initial looks test. I am not 25 years old but in good shape and well presented.

It’s probably your looks. If you are hot, guys won’t care.

Yes, you earn too little. WTF do you expect to hear?

Anonymous wrote:I'm 32, no kids, never been married. My BF (38) jokes with me that he could date a 1k/hour lawyer, however, he found women like that always compete with him. Men, to a certain extent, don't care about your job. Have a job that pays your bills and isn't embarrassing, beyond that if they also make money they just find it annoying.

That doesn’t seem fair.

I'm 32, no kids, never been married. My BF (38) jokes with me that he could date a 1k/hour lawyer, however, he found women like that always compete with him. Men, to a certain extent, don't care about your job. Have a job that pays your bills and isn't embarrassing, beyond that if they also make money they just find it annoying.

Anonymous wrote:Are you the same poster who needed to know if she could find a handsome man w/out kids who had a M.S. degree & loved singing campfire 🔥 songs + making s’mores?

+ i think she is!!

Anonymous wrote:Are you the same poster who needed to know if she could find a handsome man w/out kids who had a M.S. degree & loved singing campfire 🔥 songs + making s’mores?

Definitely not. Camping is not my cup of tea. I am also very open to a man with DCs (so long as they are at least 8 years old). No toddlers or babies for meZ

Are you the same poster who needed to know if she could find a handsome man w/out kids who had a M.S. degree & loved singing campfire 🔥 songs + making s’mores?

I am a professional (think Finance/Law/CPA) and my salary varies but never less the mid-six figures. I am 45 and divorced with two teen sons (1 in college and 1 in high school). I have a beach house and a nice primary home, my DCs went/go to private school. I don’t bring up my career or my beach house or the private school but I sense some hesitancy from some guys when they figure it out. I know the answer is to find someone who doesn’t care but I wonder if I am being ruled out in the early stages before they get to know me because of it. Thanks