Anonymous wrote:Hmmmm, reflects pretty poorly on you that you chose to marry him, doesn’t it.

Don’t you get tired of posting the same comment on every relationship thread? Like literally any thread that has a woman writing about how badly her husband treats her, I see a comment from (presumably) you saying “you chose to marry him”

Get a life!

Hmmmm, reflects pretty poorly on you that you chose to marry him, doesn’t it.

Hard to wrap my head around why these are condescending. I think your first example is sort of annoying. Scotch tape would be find if yo didn't have medical tape and isn't worth a conversation. Sounds like you both dug in instead of looking at each other's perspective. As for the second, I don't know anyone who doesn't get irritated by someone directing how they do childcare. It's find if you're working to ask that your child be removed. But to direct that clothes be changed? That kind of sounds like you were the condescending one in that interaction.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he tall? Did he have a good job when you met him? Does he have a good head of hair and was he funny when you met him?

I don’t understand what these things have to do with OP’s problem.

NP. I think PP was trying to say OP overlooked red flags when dating because she liked the superficial stuff.

Anonymous wrote:Is he tall? Did he have a good job when you met him? Does he have a good head of hair and was he funny when you met him?

I don’t understand what these things have to do with OP’s problem.

Divorce, perhaps preceded by counseling. Can you really imagine living like this until you die?

Too sad

Aren't they all?

Contempt is toxic. So what are you going to do about it?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he tall? Did he have a good job when you met him? Does he have a good head of hair and was he funny when you met him?

Op here. Yep, he checked the boxes at the time.

Sorry

I think this is what happens when women in your position end up cheating with a nice guy from work who seems to be a breath of fresh air. Not saying to do it. But it explains it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he tall? Did he have a good job when you met him? Does he have a good head of hair and was he funny when you met him?

Op here. Yep, he checked the boxes at the time.

Sorry

Anonymous wrote:Is he tall? Did he have a good job when you met him? Does he have a good head of hair and was he funny when you met him?

Op here. Yep, he checked the boxes at the time.

Is he tall? Did he have a good job when you met him? Does he have a good head of hair and was he funny when you met him?

Scotch tape? I'm sorry but that's my main takeaway from this post

What happens if you make a joke about it

It doesn’t matter what I say, my husband suggests the opposite. If I disagree with him, I’m the asshole.

I have a suspected broken toe. The doctor recommended I buddy tape the toe using gauze and medical tape. I was advised to elevate my foot and rest.

I told my husband my doctors recommendations. My husband Scoffs, telling me elevation doesn’t work and I need to ice it. He tells me I don’t need to use gauze or medical tape, that scotch tape will be fine.

I tell him that doesn’t sound comfortable and scotch tape might compress the bruising. I tell him I’d rather take my doctors advice. He gets mad, saying I shouldn’t tell him things if I don’t want his advice (I didn’t ask for his advice).

I walk away and go to the bedroom. He comes in a few minutes later, complains I have too many lights in the bedroom. He turns them all off while I’m reading alone.

He treats me with such disdain.

My son ran into my office while I was on a zoom call. My son was wet and in wet clothes. I asked him to change our sons diaper and soaking wet clothes because they had come inside from a walk when they were playing with water. My husband with his voice elevated tells me to calm down and he doesn’t need to do it right away. The way he told me to calm down was so condescending.

I feel like he doesn’t even like me most days and barely tolerates me or anything I have to say.