Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Four sided fencing around the pool (With a self-closing, self-latching gâte) is the only proven prevention.

An elderly person would probably be able to figure out how to open a latched gate.

Can you put it so high as to be out of reach for the wife?

If he is in this much denial, the pool will not be the only problem.

Ugh, I’m so sorry, OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you keep a combination lock on the pool cage gate? That is what we do for our SN adult daughter. That way your dad can still get in and out without a key but it is too difficult for your mom to figure out alone.

Unfortunately, FIL is not open to locking or alarming the pool cage door-he has some denial issues, denial of severity of the decline of step-MIL. I was thinking alarming the pool itself may be next best idea.

Honestly, a pool alarm won't go off until she falls in. Is he in good enough condition that he could hear the alarm, register what's going on, get to the pool, perform a rescue etc . . . in a matter of minutes? If not, then it's just a false sense of security.

Anonymous wrote:Four sided fencing around the pool (With a self-closing, self-latching gâte) is the only proven prevention.

An elderly person would probably be able to figure out how to open a latched gate.

Four sided fencing around the pool (With a self-closing, self-latching gâte) is the only proven prevention.

The thing with pool alarms, it might be too late by the time they went off.

Would it help if the message came from someone else? I used to know a nurse who worked for an insurance company to basically “baby proofed” homes for the elderly. Things like eliminating slip and fall risks, installing grab bars.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you keep a combination lock on the pool cage gate? That is what we do for our SN adult daughter. That way your dad can still get in and out without a key but it is too difficult for your mom to figure out alone.

Unfortunately, FIL is not open to locking or alarming the pool cage door-he has some denial issues, denial of severity of the decline of step-MIL. I was thinking alarming the pool itself may be next best idea.

She’d have to wear it:
https://www.amazon.com/Safety-Turtle-Child-Immersion-Water/dp/B019CWBUS2

Anonymous wrote:Can you keep a combination lock on the pool cage gate? That is what we do for our SN adult daughter. That way your dad can still get in and out without a key but it is too difficult for your mom to figure out alone.

Unfortunately, FIL is not open to locking or alarming the pool cage door-he has some denial issues, denial of severity of the decline of step-MIL. I was thinking alarming the pool itself may be next best idea.

Anonymous wrote:Can you keep a combination lock on the pool cage gate? That is what we do for our SN adult daughter. That way your dad can still get in and out without a key but it is too difficult for your mom to figure out alone.

Correction: Step mom

Can you keep a combination lock on the pool cage gate? That is what we do for our SN adult daughter. That way your dad can still get in and out without a key but it is too difficult for your mom to figure out alone.

OP here- so in their house, there are sliding glass doors to a lanai-screened in. The lanai has a screen door to where the pool is, which is enclosed by a pool cage, which is like a metal frame with screen that covers the whole area, and has it's own screen door to the yard outside.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not familiar with the term “pool cage”—is that a fenced enclosure with a gate?

I would like to know too. Do you mean a screened in lanai?

I’m not familiar with the term “pool cage”—is that a fenced enclosure with a gate?

My step-MIL has been dx with Alzhimers, and it has been a rapid decline. She lives nearby with FIL, who cares for her, and he works a part time job (this is not sustainable IMO).

Anyhow, they have an inground pool-we're in FL so it's in a pool cage outside the back door. sMIL seems to have lost the ability to swim. Dh and I offered to buy a pool alarm-I actually offered to buy a DOOR alarm, but FIL was not open to this. I know nothing about pool things, and there were dozens listed online. Any recommendations of an alarm that is simple to use?