Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 17:23     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:If it's a rare thing and a special moment (after some sort of hardship or a great achievement), I love it. Otherwise I think it sounds insecure and fake.


+1. My friend published a book, and her husband posted quite a rave on FB about how she is a superwoman. That was touching and totally OK, but #blessed every other day is not.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 17:16     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think people who do this are having major relationship problems, maybe headed towards divorce. Vowel renewals also tell me things are on the rocks.


+1
I have a friend who does this. She's been married for well over 20 years and needs to let everyone know it's going well. No kids and rumor has it that he cheats. I question the need to rub everyone's face in your "amazing" marriage. More like trying to show everyone that you're not failing at something.


I assume gushers are trying hard to convince themselves every bit as much as they're trying to sell their heart shaped image of marital bliss to others. Vow renewal usually suggests that something is or has been amiss.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 17:12     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
When you meet people like this their first question is often, Are you on Facebook? Building an audience is very important.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 17:11     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
If it's a rare thing and a special moment (after some sort of hardship or a great achievement), I love it. Otherwise I think it sounds insecure and fake.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 17:09     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:IME public gushers tend to be insecure about something, frequently the state of their marriages.

+1
I know one couple that gushes and he definitely cheated.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 17:07     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:I think people who do this are having major relationship problems, maybe headed towards divorce. Vowel renewals also tell me things are on the rocks.


+1
I have a friend who does this. She's been married for well over 20 years and needs to let everyone know it's going well. No kids and rumor has it that he cheats. I question the need to rub everyone's face in your "amazing" marriage. More like trying to show everyone that you're not failing at something.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 17:00     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
It's normal, but DH and I don't do it. He has FB and barely uses it, and I don't have FB.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:52     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
On a big anniversary - fine! Otherwise please don't.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:36     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think people who do this are having major relationship problems, maybe headed towards divorce. Vowel renewals also tell me things are on the rocks.


Vow. Weird autocorrect.

I always assume vow renewals almost always mean that at least one of them cheated.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:33     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:I think people who do this are having major relationship problems, maybe headed towards divorce. Vowel renewals also tell me things are on the rocks.


Vow. Weird autocorrect.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:23     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
IME public gushers tend to be insecure about something, frequently the state of their marriages.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:21     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
I think people who do this are having major relationship problems, maybe headed towards divorce. Vowel renewals also tell me things are on the rocks.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:19     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:it's worse when both the wife and the husband gush over each other on FB.


This is my brother and SIL. I just like every 20th post or so and try to scroll past the rest.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:18     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
it's worse when both the wife and the husband gush over each other on FB.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2020 16:07     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
Normal? Not normal? I always wonder about the women who post about how in love they still are with their husbands and gush over their relationships on FB.