Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:52     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Anonymous wrote:I slapped my 13 or 14 year old once in the heat of the moment for him calling me a bitch. I didn't even think, just turned around quick and slapped him.

He's now 19, and doesn't even remember it, though my 17 year old remembers it. 19 year old said he must have needed it, and it had no long term impact.

We are not an abusive household, and this weighed on my for years. I don't believe I apologized either. Just sent him to his room. If it was reoccurring, then yes, it would be abuse IMO


still abuse

also traumatic for the kid who remembers it.

and I don't think you should necessarily believe the kid who you slapped doesn't remember it. He might be saying that to avoid disturbing memories and feelings.

You should be ashamed of yourself. What a bad parent.

There is no reason to touch a child in anger, EVER.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:49     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
I slapped my 13 or 14 year old once in the heat of the moment for him calling me a bitch. I didn't even think, just turned around quick and slapped him.

He's now 19, and doesn't even remember it, though my 17 year old remembers it. 19 year old said he must have needed it, and it had no long term impact.

We are not an abusive household, and this weighed on my for years. I don't believe I apologized either. Just sent him to his room. If it was reoccurring, then yes, it would be abuse IMO
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:47     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Yes. There’s zero reason to ever physically strike your kid.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:47     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Anonymous wrote:Are you slapping them across the face or slapping a hand away from an in-use gas cooktop?


Question is referring to slapping across the face out of anger
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:43     Subject: Re:Is slapping abuse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just because you apologize afterwards and only do it once, doesn't make it not abusive. It is abusive regardless of the number of times it happens.


This is completely not true. A one time incident is not abuse.


The act itself is abuse. The distinction you're trying to make is whether a single incident means the child is being abused. Most would say no. That doesn't mean the act is not abusive.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:41     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Are you slapping them across the face or slapping a hand away from an in-use gas cooktop?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:41     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Anonymous wrote:Is a parent open-handed face slapping a child or teen constitute abuse?


Have your husband or wife slap you a time or two when annoyed. Do you think it is okay if it only happens now and then. The memory and fear of it happening again sticks.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:35     Subject: Re:Is slapping abuse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just because you apologize afterwards and only do it once, doesn't make it not abusive. It is abusive regardless of the number of times it happens.


This is completely not true. A one time incident is not abuse.


Abuse is often a pattern but it doesn't have to be. Think about what you're saying: if you only molest a child once, it's not sexual abuse?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:33     Subject: Re:Is slapping abuse?
Anonymous wrote:Just because you apologize afterwards and only do it once, doesn't make it not abusive. It is abusive regardless of the number of times it happens.


This is completely not true. A one time incident is not abuse.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 10:31     Subject: Re:Is slapping abuse?
Just because you apologize afterwards and only do it once, doesn't make it not abusive. It is abusive regardless of the number of times it happens.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 09:12     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
It's not great parenting.

Is it abusive? It is now but didn't used to be. Who knows whether it will be in the future or not.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 09:00     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Anonymous wrote:Doing it once and apologizing profusely afterwards, no.

Doing it more than once as part of a broader pattern of violent, threatening, or demeaning behavior, yes.


Twins!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 08:59     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Doing it once and apologizing profusely afterwards, no.

Doing it more than once as part of a broader pattern of violent, threatening, or demeaning behavior, yes.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 08:58     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Once in a heated moment which the parent later apologizes for and realizes they were wrong? No.

As a pattern of discipline, especially if the "offense" is following nonsensical rules? Yes.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 08:51     Subject: Is slapping abuse?
Is a parent open-handed face slapping a child or teen constitute abuse?