Anonymous wrote:The baby is supposed to cure the adoptive parents of the trauma of infertility - impossible
The newborn misses its own mother - it is called the primal wound. The baby knows it is with a caretaker it does not know.
Adoptive parents are jealous of the bio parents, the kid is made to feel guilty, when it wants to search the parents are against it. This results in some cases even in blackmail. i.e. They did not want you, we raised you
Sometimes society is negative toward adoption. You stay as the adopted cousin

Are you really this ignorant, or are you just pretending!!!

Anonymous wrote:The baby is supposed to cure the adoptive parents of the trauma of infertility - impossible
The newborn misses its own mother - it is called the primal wound. The baby knows it is with a caretaker it does not know.
Adoptive parents are jealous of the bio parents, the kid is made to feel guilty, when it wants to search the parents are against it. This results in some cases even in blackmail. i.e. They did not want you, we raised you
Sometimes society is negative toward adoption. You stay as the adopted cousin

Not everyone adopts due to infertility. We didn't.

Anonymous wrote: I am sure most families adopt because they truly want to raise a child. They're adopting another one, and I am not quite sure why.

Maybe they would treat their bio kids the same way if they had any.

Sometimes the adoptive parents fail to bond with the baby

Anonymous wrote:I know of a family who adopted a child and I swear it seems the overworked/underpaid live-in Nanny is actually raising the child. For the child's first year, they would go family events (grandparents house, etc); and leave the child at home w/ the Nanny. I think their adoption was more of a 'want to fit in with everyone else that has kids'; however, I think this is rare. I am sure most families adopt because they truly want to raise a child. They're adopting another one, and I am not quite sure why.

Maybe they would treat their bio kids the same way if they had any.

The baby is supposed to cure the adoptive parents of the trauma of infertility - impossible
The newborn misses its own mother - it is called the primal wound. The baby knows it is with a caretaker it does not know.
Adoptive parents are jealous of the bio parents, the kid is made to feel guilty, when it wants to search the parents are against it. This results in some cases even in blackmail. i.e. They did not want you, we raised you
Sometimes society is negative toward adoption. You stay as the adopted cousin

I know of a family who adopted a child and I swear it seems the overworked/underpaid live-in Nanny is actually raising the child. For the child's first year, they would go family events (grandparents house, etc); and leave the child at home w/ the Nanny. I think their adoption was more of a 'want to fit in with everyone else that has kids'; however, I think this is rare. I am sure most families adopt because they truly want to raise a child. They're adopting another one, and I am not quite sure why.

Anonymous wrote:Adoption does not always work out. It is in the best interests of the adoptive parents, and the bio, but there are not guarantees that the child will be happy.

Biological parenting doesn't always work out either. How many people do you know who are estranged from their parents? Giving birth to a child is no guarantee the child will be happy.

Adoption does not always work out. It is in the best interests of the adoptive parents, and the bio, but there are not guarantees that the child will be happy.

I have a neighbor who told her adopted kids she wishes she never adopted them. She treats them horribly. VA DSS has none nothing to help them either.

I am a very happy adoptive parent. I can't imagine having a more wonderful child. No regrets here! Why? Are you thinking of putting a child up for adoption?

Again, what's the point of this OP? This is like asking if people ever regret getting married or getting pregnant. What are you fishing for?

I am an adult adoptee and no, I don't regret being adopted at all. Obviously each adoption comes with a loss, but I wouldn't trade my family for anything in the world. I know a good deal about my history and I can say honestly that I am better off having been adopted. Without turning this into an abortion debate, I know that my birth parents considered abortion and I'm grateful they didn't do it in the end.

I'm also an adoptive parent, and again, while there was loss involved with my child's adoption, I can't imagine a more perfect child for our family. I love DC so, so, so much and I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.

Adoption has been a blessing for me in so many ways.

I know some adult adoptees who wish they had not been adopted

What is the point of these questions? Are you doing research, taking a survey, just curious???

This is for both women/men who put babies up for adoption, and parents who adopted kids. Do you wish you had kept your child to raise, or had an abortion? For adoptive parents, do you wish you hadn't adopted, or had adopted with different circumstances?