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Anonymous wrote:is it because you are not interacting with ANYONE else? I would love to let my kids go to their grandparents now since we have quarantined for 4 months, but I still worry about the asymptomatic aspect that my kids could still *could* give it to them. is this irrational at this point?!

No. It is not irrational at all. Families like yours need to decide whether they are going to fully quarantine - and by fully I mean no social distanced outside gatherings with friends, no grocery store visits, etc - and therefore see grandparents, OR not fully quarantine (go to stores, see friends outside, etc) and therefore not see grandparents. It's one or the other. And even when you do see grandparents, it should be outside, masked, at least ten feet apart.

It may be one or the other for you, but it’s not for everyone. Adults can decide, together, what risks they find acceptable. We see grandparents and we both work outside the home. We get tested regularly, grandparents get tested regularly. For us, it is what it is and the grandparents decided it was a risk they wanted to take, so we let them be adults and make their own decisions. Everyone is different.

Same here, we take precautions but are no longer quarantining. One set of grandparents finds the risk acceptable and has chosen to see us. The other grandparents is not, so our contact will done via zoom and Skype for the foreseeable future.

Anonymous wrote:is it because you are not interacting with ANYONE else? I would love to let my kids go to their grandparents now since we have quarantined for 4 months, but I still worry about the asymptomatic aspect that my kids could still *could* give it to them. is this irrational at this point?!

We were but we’re pretty strict in our home about quarantine.
Now we aren’t as strict, and going to have stop seeing my mom (83 with COPD)

We kept 4yo DD away from my parents for 12 weeks. Both they and us practiced social distancing as much as possible during that time (WFH, no daycare, grocery trips once every 2 weeks while masked). I was pregnant when all this first started, and they were our childcare for older DD while I was in the hospital, so that ended the isolation from them. They've visited us in our home overnight twice since then (last 2 months). None of us are masked, and there's no way I am telling my mother that she can't hug and hold her only grandchildren. She's having enough issues with depression through all of this as it is, and they've both made it very clear that they are willing to take the risk, as they feel it is worth it to be able to see us. They are still very active and of sound mind, so I dont feel the need to "parent" them.
After consultation with our pediatrician, older DD was re-enrolled in daycare 2 weeks ago. DD#2 will be starting daycare in 2 weeks. Newer info appears to indicate that transmission among children and from child to adult isn't nearly as much of a risk as adult to adult or adult to child. We've discussed isolating from my parents again due to daycare, but they are still willing to risk it, knowing that it could easily be over a year, if not more, until a vaccine is available. Unfortunately, this is our new normal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is it because you are not interacting with ANYONE else? I would love to let my kids go to their grandparents now since we have quarantined for 4 months, but I still worry about the asymptomatic aspect that my kids could still *could* give it to them. is this irrational at this point?!

No. It is not irrational at all. Families like yours need to decide whether they are going to fully quarantine - and by fully I mean no social distanced outside gatherings with friends, no grocery store visits, etc - and therefore see grandparents, OR not fully quarantine (go to stores, see friends outside, etc) and therefore not see grandparents. It's one or the other. And even when you do see grandparents, it should be outside, masked, at least ten feet apart.

It may be one or the other for you, but it’s not for everyone. Adults can decide, together, what risks they find acceptable. We see grandparents and we both work outside the home. We get tested regularly, grandparents get tested regularly. For us, it is what it is and the grandparents decided it was a risk they wanted to take, so we let them be adults and make their own decisions. Everyone is different.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents live very near us and all of us are being good about non family social distancing and wearing masks. But we see them a lot at each others homes without wearing masks. There is certainly risk but they are in very good health which helps. My kids are very young and haven't played with anyone but themselves for four months. If my kids were teens or older and were out and about we would not be seeing my parents.

this is exactly our situation except my dad is high risk (70+ with heart condition). my mom is super healthy but being extremely cautious for my dad. we see them weekly but stay further than 6 feet outside without masks. I just can't wait to hug them and my kids want to go in their house and interact with them again. they are young (5 and 9) so it's tough.
-OP

You should be staying at least ten feet away AND wearing masks, even outside.

Anonymous wrote:My parents came here a few weeks ago for a weekend visit. Yes it was a risk (for them). Both wore masks inside the house and didn’t touch us. Kept our distance the best we could.

They needed the visit. They were becoming increasingly depressed and withdrawn. It was worth it.

YOU GUYS should have been wearing masks, too. You made them wear masks but didnt wear masks yourselves?

Anonymous wrote:is it because you are not interacting with ANYONE else? I would love to let my kids go to their grandparents now since we have quarantined for 4 months, but I still worry about the asymptomatic aspect that my kids could still *could* give it to them. is this irrational at this point?!

No. It is not irrational at all. Families like yours need to decide whether they are going to fully quarantine - and by fully I mean no social distanced outside gatherings with friends, no grocery store visits, etc - and therefore see grandparents, OR not fully quarantine (go to stores, see friends outside, etc) and therefore not see grandparents. It's one or the other. And even when you do see grandparents, it should be outside, masked, at least ten feet apart.

We are seeing the grandparents as of three weeks ago. Cases are down in the Chicago area. We've agreed to all be extremely careful, with only minimal shopping and no maskless contact with anyone else. We're actually being more careful than the grandparents, who live in an elevator building, got haircuts, and shop at Whole Foods. We're cutting hair at home and exclusively getting food delivered. We've decided that its worth it to be extremely careful for our kids to be with the two remaining grandparents.

Anonymous wrote:My parents live very near us and all of us are being good about non family social distancing and wearing masks. But we see them a lot at each others homes without wearing masks. There is certainly risk but they are in very good health which helps. My kids are very young and haven't played with anyone but themselves for four months. If my kids were teens or older and were out and about we would not be seeing my parents.

this is exactly our situation except my dad is high risk (70+ with heart condition). my mom is super healthy but being extremely cautious for my dad. we see them weekly but stay further than 6 feet outside without masks. I just can't wait to hug them and my kids want to go in their house and interact with them again. they are young (5 and 9) so it's tough.
-OP

We are not visiting grandparents, but are seeing a couple families outdoors. We are all low risk and careful. I don’t want to expose grandparents though, and I’m not sure they understand why we see a few people and not them.

My parents live very near us and all of us are being good about non family social distancing and wearing masks. But we see them a lot at each others homes without wearing masks. There is certainly risk but they are in very good health which helps. My kids are very young and haven't played with anyone but themselves for four months. If my kids were teens or older and were out and about we would not be seeing my parents.

My family and my parents all live in areas with <3% positive test rates and widespread testing. We aren't on complete lockdown, but are being cautious.

My mom lives with us so it's not an option for us to not see her. Our family is still acting like we're in Phase 1 though, so there's a trade-off. I'm glad she's with us because it would have been really hard on her being completely alone for all of this time, but we need to be a lot more careful because of it.

If you're truly not seeing anyone else, working from home, getting groceries delivered, not popping into Target for a few things, etc etc, I would think you'd be fine to visit.

My parents came here a few weeks ago for a weekend visit. Yes it was a risk (for them). Both wore masks inside the house and didn’t touch us. Kept our distance the best we could.

They needed the visit. They were becoming increasingly depressed and withdrawn. It was worth it.

is it because you are not interacting with ANYONE else? I would love to let my kids go to their grandparents now since we have quarantined for 4 months, but I still worry about the asymptomatic aspect that my kids could still *could* give it to them. is this irrational at this point?!