Anonymous
07/05/2020 14:54
Subject: Re:Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Preschool teacher here. My vote is grandparents. The concept of “socialization with peers” is relatively new and has never been proven to benefit a young child. I completely believe in my program and school but wouldn’t put it above grandparents involvement for a three-year-old.
This is interesting. My kid is also three, and is supposed to start public PK in September but we still don't know if it's going to happen. I've been stressed because ever since her daycare closed down in March, she's just been at home with my spouse and I. We have no family nearby. We have done a handful of social distancing gatherings with friends, but we don't let the kids interact much because they don't all reliably wear masks and we want to be cautious.
Anyway, I've been worried that if there isn't in-person school in the fall, she's going to have issues with peer socialization. I feel like she's already forgotten what daycare was like, and even with that, she was definitely still pretty unsure around other kids (she's super verbal and comfortable with adults but has always been very shy with other kids at daycare and on the playground). Do you think we should be trying to form some kind of pod with another parent group to get her peer socialization this year, or will it be okay if she doesn't get much until later next year? In general my kid is totally amazing and delightful, but I can't help but worry that she's not getting what she needs in this weird situation.
I doubt she’ll have any trouble with peer socialization next year at 4. Until just a few decades ago, children didn’t start school until five (and that was optional and half-day generally). Separation anxiety may return in the beginning but that often happens after summer break in normal times.
I simply wouldn’t worry about it. She will quickly learn that other kids are fun and school is exciting.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 14:46
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Anonymous wrote:If we weren't in the middle of a pandemic I'd say send her. But given the circumstances, I'd choose grandparents no question.
+1
Anonymous
07/05/2020 14:44
Subject: Re:Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Anonymous wrote:Preschool teacher here. My vote is grandparents. The concept of “socialization with peers” is relatively new and has never been proven to benefit a young child. I completely believe in my program and school but wouldn’t put it above grandparents involvement for a three-year-old.
This is interesting. My kid is also three, and is supposed to start public PK in September but we still don't know if it's going to happen. I've been stressed because ever since her daycare closed down in March, she's just been at home with my spouse and I. We have no family nearby. We have done a handful of social distancing gatherings with friends, but we don't let the kids interact much because they don't all reliably wear masks and we want to be cautious.
Anyway, I've been worried that if there isn't in-person school in the fall, she's going to have issues with peer socialization. I feel like she's already forgotten what daycare was like, and even with that, she was definitely still pretty unsure around other kids (she's super verbal and comfortable with adults but has always been very shy with other kids at daycare and on the playground). Do you think we should be trying to form some kind of pod with another parent group to get her peer socialization this year, or will it be okay if she doesn't get much until later next year? In general my kid is totally amazing and delightful, but I can't help but worry that she's not getting what she needs in this weird situation.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 14:06
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
If we weren't in the middle of a pandemic I'd say send her. But given the circumstances, I'd choose grandparents no question.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 11:53
Subject: Re:Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Preschool teacher here. My vote is grandparents. The concept of “socialization with peers” is relatively new and has never been proven to benefit a young child. I completely believe in my program and school but wouldn’t put it above grandparents involvement for a three-year-old.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 11:48
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
I'd vote grandparents and maybe finding one other family for her to see once a week.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 10:26
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
I think peer socialization is much more important at that age. However, I’m not sure I would want every day with lots of kids if I could avoid it. How many kids would be in her class?
Anonymous
07/05/2020 08:36
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Kids need socialisation with peers, not grandparents. I would send her to daycare.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 08:32
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
I vote grandparents, also.
She's only 3. I'd wait and do preschool next year, at 4 (presuming we get past this). In the meanwhile, she's getting socialization from the nanny and the grands-she's not isolated.
If things get better at some point, nanny could do playdates or small classes.
She's only 3. I'd wait and do preschool next year, at 4 (presuming we get past this). In the meanwhile, she's getting socialization from the nanny and the grands-she's not isolated.
If things get better at some point, nanny could do playdates or small classes.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 23:09
Subject: Re:Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Another vote for grandparents.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 22:49
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
She doesn't need to go to preschool, but if possible find some way for her to socialize with kids her age.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 22:35
Subject: Re:Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Anonymous wrote:Don’t send her to preschool, OP. It’s safer for her and she needs her grandparents.
Agree.
Preschool is a pretty modern invention. She’ll be fine.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 22:15
Subject: Re:Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Don’t send her to preschool, OP. It’s safer for her and she needs her grandparents.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 22:07
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
Keep her out if you have a nanny.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 21:55
Subject: Peer socialization vs. grandparent socialization for a 3yo
We are deciding what to do with our 3yo in the fall. She was accepted into a $$$ half-day preschool which I think will be open. However, I’m not sure I want to send her, because if we do, it will mean not seeing grandparents, because I would not want to risk that exposure. Childcare is not a problem, as we have a live-in nanny and we will both be working from home indefinitely. Should we prioritize interactions with grandparents (maybe up to 3-4x a week) or interactions with her peers at daycare? I’m leaning towards grandparents but wanted to get others’ thoughts.