Anonymous
06/30/2020 02:12
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Nope, haven't caved. No in person anything. Online only. Walking or biking with a parent and that's it. A few car rides where they stay in the car since this started. Otherwise home and one parent goes out for food every so often.
Anonymous
06/30/2020 01:58
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
One 15 yr old and they aren’t hanging out with friends. Phones and videogames ...bike rides, hikes and walks with parents. We have not had visitors and do not go to other people’s houses. We only have groceries delivered. I personally believe the next 2-4 weeks when folks let down their guard on social distancing are the the most critical. You see the spikes in places which opened early and I want to avoid helping to spread the disease.
Anonymous
06/30/2020 01:40
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have three kids: 8 yrs, 13 yrs, and 16 yrs. We have kept them all away from playdates/hanging out with friends. (They hang out and have play dates virtually.) We have kept our socializing to the grandparents and only outside with the grandparents (there are 4 still living). We have just been informed (in a very dramatic display of yelling and tears by the 13 yr old) that we are the worst parents ever, that every other kid gets to hang out with their friends, and that she is going crazy. (I actually worry that she is.) Honestly, what are you doing? I am hearing from a number of friends that they have caved. They are letting their kids have playdates/hang out in homes (it is too hot now to stay outside). Many parents seem to have given up. We feel like hold outs and as though we are torturing them. We are considering caving, but it doesn't feel right as Coronavirus numbers are increasing (although apparently not in Virginia). What are you doing? Do you think we should hold firm to socially isolating or give in and let our kids hang out with their friends indoors (they say its too hot to be outdoors and we are not members of a pool)?
I don’t understand why you call it “caving”. We aren’t under stay at home orders any more. Were you just planning on being in phase zero forever? Indefinitely?
How about until ti's safe to go out? Instead of, "it's okay if you get deathly ill because now we have hospital beds in the ICU available for you and your loved ones"?
It won't be "safe" for possible years.
Just tell your kids their lives are over now.
Us, we are socially distancing at outdoir parties, going to restaurants, hotels, pools. And have for weeks. We stay away from bars and indoor parties.
We are all fine. Kids are thrilled.
You're "all fine" until the day you're not. But that's OK. Keep persisting in your delusion that "it won't happen to meeeeeeee." Some of these families are in for very rude awakenings, and then they'll be crying about "but HOW could this HAPPEN?"
Anonymous
06/30/2020 01:25
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
I am letting my kid hang out with whoever he wants to. He is 10 and introverted so it’s not many but still.
Anonymous
06/30/2020 01:17
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have three kids: 8 yrs, 13 yrs, and 16 yrs. We have kept them all away from playdates/hanging out with friends. (They hang out and have play dates virtually.) We have kept our socializing to the grandparents and only outside with the grandparents (there are 4 still living). We have just been informed (in a very dramatic display of yelling and tears by the 13 yr old) that we are the worst parents ever, that every other kid gets to hang out with their friends, and that she is going crazy. (I actually worry that she is.) Honestly, what are you doing? I am hearing from a number of friends that they have caved. They are letting their kids have playdates/hang out in homes (it is too hot now to stay outside). Many parents seem to have given up. We feel like hold outs and as though we are torturing them. We are considering caving, but it doesn't feel right as Coronavirus numbers are increasing (although apparently not in Virginia). What are you doing? Do you think we should hold firm to socially isolating or give in and let our kids hang out with their friends indoors (they say its too hot to be outdoors and we are not members of a pool)?
I don’t understand why you call it “caving”. We aren’t under stay at home orders any more. Were you just planning on being in phase zero forever? Indefinitely?
How about until ti's safe to go out? Instead of, "it's okay if you get deathly ill because now we have hospital beds in the ICU available for you and your loved ones"?
It won't be "safe" for possible years.
Just tell your kids their lives are over now.
Us, we are socially distancing at outdoir parties, going to restaurants, hotels, pools. And have for weeks. We stay away from bars and indoor parties.
We are all fine. Kids are thrilled.
Where do you live that you've been able to do this for weeks? Florida or Texas?
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:32
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have three kids: 8 yrs, 13 yrs, and 16 yrs. We have kept them all away from playdates/hanging out with friends. (They hang out and have play dates virtually.) We have kept our socializing to the grandparents and only outside with the grandparents (there are 4 still living). We have just been informed (in a very dramatic display of yelling and tears by the 13 yr old) that we are the worst parents ever, that every other kid gets to hang out with their friends, and that she is going crazy. (I actually worry that she is.) Honestly, what are you doing? I am hearing from a number of friends that they have caved. They are letting their kids have playdates/hang out in homes (it is too hot now to stay outside). Many parents seem to have given up. We feel like hold outs and as though we are torturing them. We are considering caving, but it doesn't feel right as Coronavirus numbers are increasing (although apparently not in Virginia). What are you doing? Do you think we should hold firm to socially isolating or give in and let our kids hang out with their friends indoors (they say its too hot to be outdoors and we are not members of a pool)?
I don’t understand why you call it “caving”. We aren’t under stay at home orders any more. Were you just planning on being in phase zero forever? Indefinitely?
How about until ti's safe to go out? Instead of, "it's okay if you get deathly ill because now we have hospital beds in the ICU available for you and your loved ones"?
It won't be "safe" for possible years.
Just tell your kids their lives are over now.
Us, we are socially distancing at outdoir parties, going to restaurants, hotels, pools. And have for weeks. We stay away from bars and indoor parties.
We are all fine. Kids are thrilled.
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:27
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
We are letting our kids play with neighbors and a few local friends. We have been inside a few houses and allowed a few families inside of ours.
It has made a world of difference everyone's mental health. Yes its a risk. We accept it.
It has made a world of difference everyone's mental health. Yes its a risk. We accept it.
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:19
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have three kids: 8 yrs, 13 yrs, and 16 yrs. We have kept them all away from playdates/hanging out with friends. (They hang out and have play dates virtually.) We have kept our socializing to the grandparents and only outside with the grandparents (there are 4 still living). We have just been informed (in a very dramatic display of yelling and tears by the 13 yr old) that we are the worst parents ever, that every other kid gets to hang out with their friends, and that she is going crazy. (I actually worry that she is.) Honestly, what are you doing? I am hearing from a number of friends that they have caved. They are letting their kids have playdates/hang out in homes (it is too hot now to stay outside). Many parents seem to have given up. We feel like hold outs and as though we are torturing them. We are considering caving, but it doesn't feel right as Coronavirus numbers are increasing (although apparently not in Virginia). What are you doing? Do you think we should hold firm to socially isolating or give in and let our kids hang out with their friends indoors (they say its too hot to be outdoors and we are not members of a pool)?
I don’t understand why you call it “caving”. We aren’t under stay at home orders any more. Were you just planning on being in phase zero forever? Indefinitely?
How about until ti's safe to go out? Instead of, "it's okay if you get deathly ill because now we have hospital beds in the ICU available for you and your loved ones"?
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:18
Subject: Re:Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
I have an almost 15 yr old DD and we have not caved. She knows some of her friends and teammates are socializing but DH and I have been firm and totally honest with her about the risks - especially now with this latest surge. Yes, we’ve had some tests and major pouts about it.
I truly feel for her since she’s an only child. DH and I both try our best to keep her engaged and occupied with learning new stuff (like taking over cooking and ordering supplies) as well as working out with her and setting new challenges. She also has a summer reading list and DH and I both read the books too.
Get your DD a copy of The Diary of Anne Frank and watch WWII movies with her!
I truly feel for her since she’s an only child. DH and I both try our best to keep her engaged and occupied with learning new stuff (like taking over cooking and ordering supplies) as well as working out with her and setting new challenges. She also has a summer reading list and DH and I both read the books too.
Get your DD a copy of The Diary of Anne Frank and watch WWII movies with her!
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:17
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Anonymous wrote:We have three kids: 8 yrs, 13 yrs, and 16 yrs. We have kept them all away from playdates/hanging out with friends. (They hang out and have play dates virtually.) We have kept our socializing to the grandparents and only outside with the grandparents (there are 4 still living). We have just been informed (in a very dramatic display of yelling and tears by the 13 yr old) that we are the worst parents ever, that every other kid gets to hang out with their friends, and that she is going crazy. (I actually worry that she is.) Honestly, what are you doing? I am hearing from a number of friends that they have caved. They are letting their kids have playdates/hang out in homes (it is too hot now to stay outside). Many parents seem to have given up. We feel like hold outs and as though we are torturing them. We are considering caving, but it doesn't feel right as Coronavirus numbers are increasing (although apparently not in Virginia). What are you doing? Do you think we should hold firm to socially isolating or give in and let our kids hang out with their friends indoors (they say its too hot to be outdoors and we are not members of a pool)?
I don’t understand why you call it “caving”. We aren’t under stay at home orders any more. Were you just planning on being in phase zero forever? Indefinitely?
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:16
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
We are following the VA guidelines but that still lets us have Outdoor play dates, indoor play dates with one friend, little league, swim team lap swimming, soccer camp in two weeks, etc.
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:14
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
My 10 and 15 year old kids have had online hang-outs with individual friends. They are not socializing in person, and have no plans to.
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:13
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Do you really think you would not have had an outburst like that if you were not socially distancing? Welcome to the teen years.
We are branching out little by little. Each time we do, I regret it. People are NOT doing what they have to do to keep people around them safe. This afternoon we were at a school playground to play basketball, and as I sat at a picnic table, a girl rode her bike up, sat down at a nearby table and sneezed without covering her mouth. If you DD is old enough to ride her bike to SOMERSET ELEMENTARY SCHOOL by herself, then she's old enough to cover her freakin' mouth when she sneezes, during a pandemic no less. Holy bad parenting.
Then we went to the CVS across from Millie's Spring Valley, and some stupid kid who looked to be about 18-20 walks down the aisle with his mouth WIDE OPEN, yawning, without bother to cover his mouth -- no mask -- and starts routing through the cooler right next to me. I had to back away until he was done.
You'd think people in decent neighborhoods would have manners, but ... no. They are pigs.
Like I said, every time we go out, I wish we hadn't.
We are branching out little by little. Each time we do, I regret it. People are NOT doing what they have to do to keep people around them safe. This afternoon we were at a school playground to play basketball, and as I sat at a picnic table, a girl rode her bike up, sat down at a nearby table and sneezed without covering her mouth. If you DD is old enough to ride her bike to SOMERSET ELEMENTARY SCHOOL by herself, then she's old enough to cover her freakin' mouth when she sneezes, during a pandemic no less. Holy bad parenting.
Then we went to the CVS across from Millie's Spring Valley, and some stupid kid who looked to be about 18-20 walks down the aisle with his mouth WIDE OPEN, yawning, without bother to cover his mouth -- no mask -- and starts routing through the cooler right next to me. I had to back away until he was done.
You'd think people in decent neighborhoods would have manners, but ... no. They are pigs.
Like I said, every time we go out, I wish we hadn't.
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:13
Subject: Re:Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
Hard to say what you should do. You have to evaluate the risks and benefits and figure out what you can live with. We signed our kid up for camp and let our older kid get a job. We've allowed a kid to spend a week with us (their family had been careful) and we've also had cousins come and spend time with us. Not sure if they are social distancing. We also let them go to the pool.
At first we completely quarantined for about six weeks and then only left for groceries for a few more weeks. But, we got worn out. So, we try to be careful but we recognize that what we are doing has risks.
At first we completely quarantined for about six weeks and then only left for groceries for a few more weeks. But, we got worn out. So, we try to be careful but we recognize that what we are doing has risks.
Anonymous
06/29/2020 23:07
Subject: Social Distancing and my kids' sanity: what are you guys doing - honestly?
We have three kids: 8 yrs, 13 yrs, and 16 yrs. We have kept them all away from playdates/hanging out with friends. (They hang out and have play dates virtually.) We have kept our socializing to the grandparents and only outside with the grandparents (there are 4 still living). We have just been informed (in a very dramatic display of yelling and tears by the 13 yr old) that we are the worst parents ever, that every other kid gets to hang out with their friends, and that she is going crazy. (I actually worry that she is.) Honestly, what are you doing? I am hearing from a number of friends that they have caved. They are letting their kids have playdates/hang out in homes (it is too hot now to stay outside). Many parents seem to have given up. We feel like hold outs and as though we are torturing them. We are considering caving, but it doesn't feel right as Coronavirus numbers are increasing (although apparently not in Virginia). What are you doing? Do you think we should hold firm to socially isolating or give in and let our kids hang out with their friends indoors (they say its too hot to be outdoors and we are not members of a pool)?