After my child was diagnosed with multiple food allergies at 6ish months, another allergy parent warned me not to let my Child pick up on my food anxiety. It was really good advice.
Be prepared, not scared. Get an epipen and know how to use it. Buy like 5 small bottles of Benadryl and have them in the kitchen, diaper bag, at daycare, wherever.
I tried joining online food allergy groups and found that they felt too fear-based and ramped up my own anxiety, so I left. Find a community and an allergist that will support you, and realize you can’t possibly test for every allergen, so it’s just going to be a learning process. That said, I did watch my kid like a hawk for hives whenever he ate- just, you know, in a low key way
