Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 16:30     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
There isn't someone else I should've married, but I shouldn't have married my soon be ex. Biggest mistake of my life!
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 16:25     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
Anonymous wrote:George Clooney


Yuck. Thankfully you dodged a bullet!
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 16:05     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
No. I absolutely married the right person. So thankful for him.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:58     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
Anonymous wrote:No. DH and I have struggled but I now see that I would have struggled with anyone because I am not really the marrying type. We are still married because DH was the only one I dated with the tenacity and conviction to see our commitment through. Others with whom I seemed more naturally compatible lacked this quality. If I had not married DH I do not think I would have married anyone or stayed married more than 2-3 years max.


Same here. I have realized that all my instincts about DH were correct. DH was the right choice all the way. What he and I have built in terms of our relationship, kids, family, social network, common goals etc is pretty amazing.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:53     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
Anonymous wrote:Maybe you weren’t sure about them at the time or you thought there was something better, but looking back you shouldn’t have given them up.


Yes. I was in a LD relationship was a sophomore-junior in college. I thought I was too young to marry and I broke it off. My first marriage was almost nine years later and a disaster.

I’m happily remarried now, but I realize that I threw away a good man because of a cultural perception about young marriage.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:49     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
Anonymous wrote:George Clooney


Are you male, PP?
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:38     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
No. But there's someone that I got to know pretty well after I got married that I thought, dang, if I were still single I'd go after him. Still feel that way.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:34     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
George Clooney
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:32     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
I'm so happy I married my husband! In fact, last weekend an ex that I hadn't spoken to in years messaged me on Facebook, and though I initially felt a tinge of nostalgia, within a few messages he devolved into the same old jerk that he always was, and I was so grateful that I wasn't stuck with that.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:26     Subject: Re:Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
No, nobody from my past. Since married I can say I found a person I could see myself with had I not been married.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:21     Subject: Re:Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
No, two guys proposed to me before I met my now husband and I’m so glad I said no. Neither of them ever amounted to anything from what I can see and my husband has really been wonderful.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:18     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
No. Like PP, with hindsight I'd say I just probably should not have married. My husband and I are pretty compatible as friends, and I enjoy my life with him in it, but I think I would have been happier on my own.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 15:09     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
Not really. When DH and I have issues, I sometimes think about how someone else would have been a better match on that issue. But I know that these other people would have been a poorer match in other areas. And overall, the areas where DH and I align in our priorities/values is more important than the personality fits of these other people.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 02:23     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
No. DH and I have struggled but I now see that I would have struggled with anyone because I am not really the marrying type. We are still married because DH was the only one I dated with the tenacity and conviction to see our commitment through. Others with whom I seemed more naturally compatible lacked this quality. If I had not married DH I do not think I would have married anyone or stayed married more than 2-3 years max.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2020 02:13     Subject: Looking back: was there someone else you should have married
Maybe you weren’t sure about them at the time or you thought there was something better, but looking back you shouldn’t have given them up.