Good lawyer.

Keep repeating that. He or she should prioritize your child's needs. They are not all financial. He deserves a decent role model.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband won't leave this job, as this is this is a successful startup project of his life. My estimate is that he's having a mistress since 2016, but met her in 2012. I guess I was just wondering, if they are dating for so long and he still didn't ask for a divorce, why is that?

I am just totally shocked someone could be so dishonest and lead double life: photos of our family friends visiting are mixed with him hopping on a plane flying with her somewhere with faces full of love.

Our marriage was full of love some time ago, and he gives her gifts from same designers, takes to same places he took me. She looks old, in her 50s, but otherwise a very well groomed and attractive woman. She took him for dinner with her husband and daughter, who don't suspect anything.

My son is not doing well (on spectrum), and I am SAHM because I am his main caregiver. I've been working part time whole married life, but it's not a high flying corporate job that my husband promoted his mistress for.

I feel like I was ripped of everything, but most of all, of companionship with someone I built a life after our son goes to college...

Now I think you're a troll. This is completely nonresponsive to any of the replies.

It's just there were so many replies that I am trying to explain all circumstances in one post, instead of individual quotes.

Anonymous wrote:Marriage therapy is not helpful with an abuser. I would consult an attorney.

Does your SN son have a prospect of living independently and leaving for college or a job at 18. Will your DH continue to contribute financially to support your son if not?

My son's well being is a very big concern. For now, he is receiving all financial support (tutors, good school, college fund). I hope my husband won't mind paying for his college if we were to divorce.

Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

Can't tell here.

Anonymous wrote:My husband won't leave this job, as this is this is a successful startup project of his life. My estimate is that he's having a mistress since 2016, but met her in 2012. I guess I was just wondering, if they are dating for so long and he still didn't ask for a divorce, why is that?

I am just totally shocked someone could be so dishonest and lead double life: photos of our family friends visiting are mixed with him hopping on a plane flying with her somewhere with faces full of love.

Our marriage was full of love some time ago, and he gives her gifts from same designers, takes to same places he took me. She looks old, in her 50s, but otherwise a very well groomed and attractive woman. She took him for dinner with her husband and daughter, who don't suspect anything.

My son is not doing well (on spectrum), and I am SAHM because I am his main caregiver. I've been working part time whole married life, but it's not a high flying corporate job that my husband promoted his mistress for.

I feel like I was ripped of everything, but most of all, of companionship with someone I built a life after our son goes to college...

Now I think you're a troll. This is completely nonresponsive to any of the replies.

My husband won't leave this job, as this is this is a successful startup project of his life. My estimate is that he's having a mistress since 2016, but met her in 2012. I guess I was just wondering, if they are dating for so long and he still didn't ask for a divorce, why is that?

I am just totally shocked someone could be so dishonest and lead double life: photos of our family friends visiting are mixed with him hopping on a plane flying with her somewhere with faces full of love.

Our marriage was full of love some time ago, and he gives her gifts from same designers, takes to same places he took me. She looks old, in her 50s, but otherwise a very well groomed and attractive woman. She took him for dinner with her husband and daughter, who don't suspect anything.

My son is not doing well (on spectrum), and I am SAHM because I am his main caregiver. I've been working part time whole married life, but it's not a high flying corporate job that my husband promoted his mistress for.

I feel like I was ripped of everything, but most of all, of companionship with someone I built a life after our son goes to college...

Anonymous wrote:Almost none of your details matter. The bottom line is, your husband is in a relationship with someone else. It's time to think about next step logistics: housing, returning to work, transportation. How she signs emails are completely irrelevant to your next steps.

Her feelings and connection to his company are irrelevant.

You deserve better than how he has been acting at home and away. You will feel MUCH worse than you have up to now if you stay in this situation. And, as you mentioned, it is very unhealthy for your son to witness.

Get a good attorney. Prepare to leave. You need dignity and self esteem for your future. You do not need him.

Almost none of your details matter. The bottom line is, your husband is in a relationship with someone else. It's time to think about next step logistics: housing, returning to work, transportation. How she signs emails are completely irrelevant to your next steps.

That is an affair and I wouldn't believe them if he's sending expensive gifts. Get a job, stash money away and when he's on his next trip pack his crap and tell him to go move in with her.

How did you find out?

Marriage therapy is not helpful with an abuser. I would consult an attorney.

Does your SN son have a prospect of living independently and leaving for college or a job at 18. Will your DH continue to contribute financially to support your son if not?

How did you find out? DH finds a new job and goes no contact recommitting to the marriage or you divorce. It’s not difficult.

Putting aside the affair, you don’t have a healthy or loving relationship with your DH. He doesn’t respect you. Leave.

I could not live with this dynamic. He's a miserable partner and he's cheating on you. I do not see much worth salvaging here.

I just found out my husband of 15 years has a "corporate mistress". She's married with grown up child, same age as my husband. They meet whenever he has a business trip for a few days. She never responds "kiss" when she signs personal emails to him. He seems to be more into her. They book separate rooms in same hotel, so he was always able to call me daily in the evenings from business trips. She's smart, the main driver in his company and one of the shareholders. He sends her expensive jewelry and art. She just shoots quick response messages "nice".

I am beautiful, 10 years younger SAHM, raising a special needs teenage son with my husband. At home my husband is controlling, despotic, raises his voice and always tries to make me look guilty in somethings. I feel like I am irritating him a lot, but that other woman doesn't need him. Our growing up son loves me but takes example of this behavior from my husband.

They meet 5-7 times/year for only a few days. But no matter what she will remain his main partner in business, so I guess she will be riding his penis for a while...

Is marriage therapy helpful at all in such situations, or shall I just run? I started looking for an attorney.