Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:50     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
To me this is so sad,.. I was the last of the generation without hand holding. My mom didn’t even know my college grades. Parents now are handicapping their kids due to their own anxieties.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:44     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
I only have a very vague idea of what classes my oldest kids took in high school, what their grades were, or sat scores. They are “dcum successful” in college and post-college so I’m assuming they figured things out. Youngest kid has caused me to receive negative emails from teachers before so we’re a lot more hands on there.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:41     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Even if it’s HS seniors it’s stupid.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:40     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:Seniors in COLLEGE? We probably gave advice to our college freshman and I recall an instance or two (we have three kids - when the third graduates in May that will be the 4th degree between them) when a kid had two chose between two classes and it was in an area of interest of one parent and they asked for an opinion. But seriously? That is way too much. How are these young adults going to manage their future jobs?

I think OP meant HS seniors. I hope it was not college seniors.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:39     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:My friends husband would drive 2 hours each way to help his son with his economics homework. Unbelievable. He did this drive many times specifically to do/help with the economics homework.

I think that is really sweet and helpful. He got to spend time with his son and they probably had dinner as well. Plus, if dad knew it and son needed help, why is this that different than paying for a tutor or going to tutoring center? Plus if you are paying all that money for tuition, why not help kid understand the material. Maybe his kid had a LD that you don't know about?
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:39     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:Some kids mature slower than others.
The kids who don’t need the help won’t let their parents help. The kids who do need coaching or organizational help should benefit from it, because ADHD-type kids can be very successful once they develop the skills.

The goal is to get everyone up to speed, recognizing that different young adults won’t all reach that point at the same time.

Moral: do what you must for family, and understand others are doing the same for theirs.



So the parent does the kids job when the kid graduates from college? If the kid can't do their homework in college should the kid even be in college?
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:37     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Seniors in COLLEGE? We probably gave advice to our college freshman and I recall an instance or two (we have three kids - when the third graduates in May that will be the 4th degree between them) when a kid had two chose between two classes and it was in an area of interest of one parent and they asked for an opinion. But seriously? That is way too much. How are these young adults going to manage their future jobs?
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:36     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
My dd went to see a counselor last year and signed up for classes that counselor recommended. I don't see how that is much different than what you are describing. certainly there might be online counseling right now? If there isn't, why wouldn't parents help their kids? Those online college platforms are not the easiest thing to navigate.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:33     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Some kids mature slower than others.
The kids who don’t need the help won’t let their parents help. The kids who do need coaching or organizational help should benefit from it, because ADHD-type kids can be very successful once they develop the skills.

The goal is to get everyone up to speed, recognizing that different young adults won’t all reach that point at the same time.

Moral: do what you must for family, and understand others are doing the same for theirs.

Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:29     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
That is so fking stupid. My parents knew what classes I took each semester, but had zero input before I registered.

There’s absolutely no way I’m doing that with my daughter. College kids are adults for fk’s sake.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:26     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
My friends husband would drive 2 hours each way to help his son with his economics homework. Unbelievable. He did this drive many times specifically to do/help with the economics homework.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:24     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
My daughter’s friend was on the phone with her mom getting help with her homework every single night last semester. Good thing they sent everyone home so mom could take her finals for her.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:24     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:My child’s college doesn’t really have class selection. You rank your choices out of three options for each subject. They assign you


Wow, love it. What college.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:14     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
My child’s college doesn’t really have class selection. You rank your choices out of three options for each subject. They assign you
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 20:12     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!

I have several friends with seniors and they are doing everything for them since it's all online over the summer (orientation, registration, selecting classes). The hand-holding going on is jawdropping.

This generation of parents has made this generation of kids incompetent!

How much help are you giving your kid? Shouldn't they just step up and figure it out?