Anonymous
06/14/2020 20:53
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
Anonymous wrote:How does one have a long distance bill these days?
This was almost two decades ago.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 20:49
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
How does one have a long distance bill these days?
Anonymous
06/14/2020 20:42
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
He began closing and locking the home office door when he worked late at night. Our laundry room was in an alcove in the same space so I was at first inconvenienced and then puzzled.
The next clue was the phone company contacting me that our cell phones would be shut off. He had run up the long distance bill to many hundreds of dollars and there wasn’t enough left in our joint account to cover it. He tried to claim the calls were to a relative having a tough time, but the numbers didn’t match.
The next clue was the phone company contacting me that our cell phones would be shut off. He had run up the long distance bill to many hundreds of dollars and there wasn’t enough left in our joint account to cover it. He tried to claim the calls were to a relative having a tough time, but the numbers didn’t match.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 20:31
Subject: Re:Signs of infidelity?
Anonymous wrote:None. I’m not kidding.
Never was late from work. No overnight trips.
We had each other’s iPhone passwords and both left our phones lying around.
No behavior changes. We still had sex 3-4 times per week.
He went to her house on Fridays during work hours (hacked his iPhone locator to make it appear he was at work—it can be done).
No phone calls. They communicated via Skype which left no trace.
He always planned nice dinners, did stuff for anniversaries and bdays, coached kids teams and we had a great relationship—lots of friends and social stuff.
He’s sick. A severe compartmentalizing narcissist.
He should teach a class on "How to Have an Affair".
Anonymous
06/14/2020 20:24
Subject: Re:Signs of infidelity?
Anonymous wrote:None. I’m not kidding.
Never was late from work. No overnight trips.
We had each other’s iPhone passwords and both left our phones lying around.
No behavior changes. We still had sex 3-4 times per week.
He went to her house on Fridays during work hours (hacked his iPhone locator to make it appear he was at work—it can be done).
No phone calls. They communicated via Skype which left no trace.
He always planned nice dinners, did stuff for anniversaries and bdays, coached kids teams and we had a great relationship—lots of friends and social stuff.
He’s sick. A severe compartmentalizing narcissist.
How did you eventually find out?
Anonymous
06/14/2020 20:12
Subject: Re:Signs of infidelity?
None. I’m not kidding.
Never was late from work. No overnight trips.
We had each other’s iPhone passwords and both left our phones lying around.
No behavior changes. We still had sex 3-4 times per week.
He went to her house on Fridays during work hours (hacked his iPhone locator to make it appear he was at work—it can be done).
No phone calls. They communicated via Skype which left no trace.
He always planned nice dinners, did stuff for anniversaries and bdays, coached kids teams and we had a great relationship—lots of friends and social stuff.
He’s sick. A severe compartmentalizing narcissist.
Never was late from work. No overnight trips.
We had each other’s iPhone passwords and both left our phones lying around.
No behavior changes. We still had sex 3-4 times per week.
He went to her house on Fridays during work hours (hacked his iPhone locator to make it appear he was at work—it can be done).
No phone calls. They communicated via Skype which left no trace.
He always planned nice dinners, did stuff for anniversaries and bdays, coached kids teams and we had a great relationship—lots of friends and social stuff.
He’s sick. A severe compartmentalizing narcissist.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 20:11
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
Anonymous wrote:I remember my XW at one time said “I don’t think people are meant to be monogamous.” At the time I thought, that’s an odd statement. Should have known.
Hopefully you're now doing well.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:57
Subject: Re:Signs of infidelity?
Anonymous wrote:A change in long established patterns.
New underwear, different from what was worn previously.
Gym membership.
Personal grooming changes.
Won’t let cell phone out of sight.
Working late.
Working early.
None of these alone mean spouse is in an affair but several of them together is a warning.
I would also add that he/she disappears randomly to make phone calls
More business trips
Distant
Moody
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:56
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
I remember my XW at one time said “I don’t think people are meant to be monogamous.” At the time I thought, that’s an odd statement. Should have known.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:56
Subject: Re:Signs of infidelity?
Sudden interest in sex acts they’d never done (with you) before.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:49
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
Change in behavior - acting nice or the opposite shirt tempered/checked out, sudden interest in more sex or avoids it, Etc.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:28
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
What signs are you seeing?
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:27
Subject: Re:Signs of infidelity?
For my ex-wife, it was when her girls nights over three months started happening Friday and Saturday nights and she wasnt back till 4.am each time And we had two kids together.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:26
Subject: Re:Signs of infidelity?
A change in long established patterns.
New underwear, different from what was worn previously.
Gym membership.
Personal grooming changes.
Won’t let cell phone out of sight.
Working late.
Working early.
None of these alone mean spouse is in an affair but several of them together is a warning.
New underwear, different from what was worn previously.
Gym membership.
Personal grooming changes.
Won’t let cell phone out of sight.
Working late.
Working early.
None of these alone mean spouse is in an affair but several of them together is a warning.
Anonymous
06/14/2020 19:14
Subject: Signs of infidelity?
What are signs a spouse is having an affair?