Anonymous wrote:Is it really bad in abusive? No.

Is it disrespectful to your son? Incredibly immature? Setting a terrible example? Yes yes and yes.

All this.

Sink full of spitout peas... nice!

Spitting the peas out is going that extra mile to communicate unambiguous disgust. Your teenage son isn't likely to forget that visual, which is probably what your husband intended.

Sad putdown of something nice that your son did for the family. Seems like your husband doesn't like his son very much.

Don't serve him or tell him to cook for himself.

Hey OP you married it.

He couldn't have just moved them to the side with his fork? I don't think that would have been obnoxious.

I also hate peas but could have eaten around as well!

Very immature. He could have passed and said "that looks delicious, but I really dislike peas, so I'm going to make a sandwich. I'm so proud of you cooking for the family"

Damn that’s rude.

I don’t like peas either. I would eat around them.

I could see my elementary ADHD kid with strong food preferences doing this

Yeah, it’s obnoxious. Not everyone likes peas but it’s not like they have a particularly strong taste. So your DH is basically registering a protest vote that his own preferences weren’t being catered to, and discouraging your son from cooking again in the process.

You should have told him to sit down and that he’d get a lollipop at the end if he ate his meal.

That’s unbelievably rude.

Is it really bad in abusive? No.

Is it disrespectful to your son? Incredibly immature? Setting a terrible example? Yes yes and yes.

Silly, but not really bad unless you're precious snowflake.

My teenage son made us (whole family) a chicken casserole for lunch. It had peas in it. Dh doesn't like peas. So instead of sitting down to eat, he stood at the kitchen sink so when he got a bite of casserole with a pea in it, he could just spit it directly into the sink.

He thinks this is fine since he doesn't like peas.