Anonymous
Post 06/01/2020 02:07     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
Anonymous wrote:Nannies can tell you they are social distancing but they might not be. My boss told (not asked) me to get my groceries delivered, because going to to the store wasn’t safe for her family. She did not offer to pay for my groceries or give me a raise for the extra cost, so I am still going to the store once or twice a week. My boss doesn’t get to tell me what to do, and she’s happy because she thinks she does. I’m happy because I’m a free person still going to the store and I don’t care about lying about it because I need my job. Just a cautionary tale that you can tell your many to do anything, but it won’t necessarily happen.

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Yes, you’ve posted this lie a couple times now on different threads, “free person”. I hope to God OP’s nanny is brighter and more mature than you.
Anonymous
Post 05/31/2020 23:34     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
Nannies can tell you they are social distancing but they might not be. My boss told (not asked) me to get my groceries delivered, because going to to the store wasn’t safe for her family. She did not offer to pay for my groceries or give me a raise for the extra cost, so I am still going to the store once or twice a week. My boss doesn’t get to tell me what to do, and she’s happy because she thinks she does. I’m happy because I’m a free person still going to the store and I don’t care about lying about it because I need my job. Just a cautionary tale that you can tell your many to do anything, but it won’t necessarily happen.
Anonymous
Post 05/31/2020 22:16     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The larger your circle, the greater the exposure.

You need to know who these people are and what they are doing: of all the household members you will be exposing yourself to (all the families, teachers included), are any on the frontlines? Are there school aged children who might go to school in September? When you talked with each of these people, did they assure you they and their families were taking physical distancing and mask-wearing seriously?



OP here. yes, I have laid out the rules, but it's also law that we wear masks in our county inside stores. I am willing to have some risk, I know they need to grocery shop too. The nanny has no other family she lives with. I have told her to be smart about what she does and who she is around. I believe the benefits outweigh the risks. I also believe the other family is being safe too.


OP, remember that your new nanny is an adult. She is free to make her own choices, and that you have to accept the risk of not being able to control all of those choices. Also, as a new nanny employer, you may want to try to remember not to get a big head. You're better off making requests than issuing orders, even though you are technically the boss. It's a nanny's market right now and you don’t want to be a nightmare to work with.
Anonymous
Post 05/31/2020 22:09     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
Anonymous wrote:
The larger your circle, the greater the exposure.

You need to know who these people are and what they are doing: of all the household members you will be exposing yourself to (all the families, teachers included), are any on the frontlines? Are there school aged children who might go to school in September? When you talked with each of these people, did they assure you they and their families were taking physical distancing and mask-wearing seriously?



OP here. yes, I have laid out the rules, but it's also law that we wear masks in our county inside stores. I am willing to have some risk, I know they need to grocery shop too. The nanny has no other family she lives with. I have told her to be smart about what she does and who she is around. I believe the benefits outweigh the risks. I also believe the other family is being safe too.
Anonymous
Post 05/31/2020 00:17     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start

The larger your circle, the greater the exposure.

You need to know who these people are and what they are doing: of all the household members you will be exposing yourself to (all the families, teachers included), are any on the frontlines? Are there school aged children who might go to school in September? When you talked with each of these people, did they assure you they and their families were taking physical distancing and mask-wearing seriously?

Anonymous
Post 05/31/2020 00:10     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
Anonymous wrote:We recently moved and signed up for a daycare but then covid. So i found a friend who knows a preschool teacher out of work and friend has a child our daughters age so we could share the teacher with them. Now that we’re going into phase one, I’m ready to bring another family who is also social distancing, and the teacher who is also social distancing, into our lives. But my partner is not ready. This is for a three year old who needs to be around another kid, watches way too much tv at home and needs to do more during the day. What say you dcum?


I think you are right and it sounds like a really wonderful solution.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2020 22:45     Subject: Re:Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
Agree with direct PP.

I would also suggest that easing into this with first just the nanny, then adding the other family a month or so later may be more acceptable.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2020 21:11     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
Who cares what dcum says? You are cops renting with your partner, so talk to them. What do they need to feel more comfortable? What are the alternatives? Etc. Differences of opinion while child rearing are extremely common and you”ve just got to figure it out. Going back to say, “hey, a bunch of strangers on the internet agree with me” is completely useless.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2020 20:31     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
DH and I are at odds over hiring a babysitter this summer. Nothing helpful but I feel your pain.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2020 20:28     Subject: Spouse not agreeing about nanny share start
We recently moved and signed up for a daycare but then covid. So i found a friend who knows a preschool teacher out of work and friend has a child our daughters age so we could share the teacher with them. Now that we’re going into phase one, I’m ready to bring another family who is also social distancing, and the teacher who is also social distancing, into our lives. But my partner is not ready. This is for a three year old who needs to be around another kid, watches way too much tv at home and needs to do more during the day. What say you dcum?