Anonymous wrote:Blunt answer - there are very few men in their 30s who have a good education and are single, and the ones left rule the dating world and date younger. I agree if you want to expand your search, date older divorced men.

OP here. Yes. When I change my match criteria I match with plenty of attractive UMC late twentysomethings. My criteria which is 32-39 are all LMC guys or weirdos or losers.

There are a few successful thritysomething men who appear to be UMC but they only want hookups and are enjoying being playboys.

Are there really no newly divorced UMC 30something men? I can't be the only one whose marriage blew up!

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Might be your attitude. Try fixing that first.

You need to be open minded. Meet men through your work. Meet men through activities. Meet men through friends of friends.

Blunt answer - there are very few men in their 30s who have a good education and are single, and the ones left rule the dating world and date younger. I agree if you want to expand your search, date older divorced men.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Because a lot of them won't use a dating app. They're afraid of finding trashy women too, so they rely on friends to introduce them. It's honestly the best way to meet men in your socioeconomic class - be introduced by people/couples who are also in that class. If you don't currently roll in those circles, you need to change your friends. Latch on to some rich women and they would knock themselves down to introduce you to a nice successful guy because 1. they don't want a single attractive woman too near their husbands, and 2. they can better relate to women who are married like them.

OP here.I am recently separated and would like to meet a similar minded professional guy to build a family with.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Anonymous wrote:The UMC guys already got married to the rest of us.

Oh yeah, 30 something? Just saw that. Yeah married someone from work at the very least. Would you date 40 that’s when divorce start?

Anonymous wrote:The UMC guys already got married to the rest of us.

+1

So true.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

The UMC guys already got married to the rest of us.

The UMC/rich are on Ashley Madison. But, they are married. I assume that should be a deal breaker for you. It should be.

Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Might be your attitude. Try fixing that first.

I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?