Good for you for recognizing the problem and seeking help OP. All the best

You’re on the path to fixing things now and that’s the important part.

Check out Celebrate Calm:
https://www.celebratecalm.com/our-story/
My child is grown and really has been harmed by parental rage, wish we could have implemented their ideas back then.

It’s not too late. You rock for getting your family back on the right track. Therapy isn’t an overnight fix, so hang in there.

OP the thoughts you're having that it's too late is your depression talking. It's not binary like that.

You can absolutely make things better for her and for you both if you put the work in.

I'm glad you're getting the help you need.

Anonymous wrote:You’re getting therapy just for you right? As well as for her/family? You’re the one who needs it most. Good luck and no it’s not too late.

Yea I am getting parental therapy and also postpartum depression therapy (just had a new baby). I hope I haven’t irrevocably harmed my 5 year old with how I have treated her and what I have been saying.

You’re getting therapy just for you right? As well as for her/family? You’re the one who needs it most. Good luck and no it’s not too late.

Not too late. And there is no alternative--deciding it's too late and then continuing on with your rage is certainly not going to be better!

I grew up with a rageful parent. I wish he'd gone to therapy himself and with me. Even if it only helped a little, it would have been good for me to see him trying. It also would have made me feel more confident becoming a parent, which I never did. We did foster care for a bit and I saw myself acting like my dad did. If he'd gone to therapy when I was young maybe I would have acted better or found it easier to change my own behavior. As it was, the child was only in care for a little while before going back to family--I was able to control myself well enough while she was here, and we didn't foster again.

I turned out mostly ok and even have a decent relationship with my dad now that we live apart. There is hope because you recognize that there is a problem, that it is your problem to solve, and that you can get help to solve it.

Not too late. I would recommend to start with play therapy for her and a family session too. If you are not in therapy for your anger, please get help too. I know it is a pain going to see a therapist and making time. Please trust me, a good therapist is worth the weight in gold. Family therapy saved my family (different issues). Good Luck.

It's not too late. It's good that you see some of the problems. Keep working on seeing the problems and working on them.

Good luck, OP. Parenting is a lot harder than it looks. We all discover that, usually the hard way.

This is sad. I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m glad that you are thinking about help. I hope you are also getting help for anger management - which seems like the priority here...

I’m sure there are some child psychologists on this board..,

We have started individual and family/parenting therapy for our 5 year old. I (mom) have extreme rage toward her which I know isn’t healthy. She is a very sensitive child and our personalities clash a lot. I have done my fair share of screaming and threatening to her when does goes off the deep end and realize that isn’t healthy. Is it too late to fix this problem? At 5 have I already emotionally scarred her for life?

She said the other day she wishes for a new life and doesn’t like her life. That made me sad and realized I need to make some changes fast.