Anonymous wrote:It's very common where I live. We see parents hit their kids on playdates all the time. It's so sad.

A friend of mine keeps inviting me to church and brags about how their pastor sells belts for hitting kids that are designed to not leave a mark 😳

Where do you live?

Anonymous wrote:It's very common where I live. We see parents hit their kids on playdates all the time. It's so sad.

A friend of mine keeps inviting me to church and brags about how their pastor sells belts for hitting kids that are designed to not leave a mark 😳

Which Church?

It's very common where I live. We see parents hit their kids on playdates all the time. It's so sad.

A friend of mine keeps inviting me to church and brags about how their pastor sells belts for hitting kids that are designed to not leave a mark 😳

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Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

Nope. Teacher here. One of my kids was kit with a belt in the face. The buckle caused a mark. Anyway, CPS said because it was the parent's first offense, nothing happened to them. Next time, I'm sure his parents will hit here where it can't be seen.

Also a teacher. I'm surprised that you got a response from CPS. That's never happened to me before.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

No, it isn’t. I don’t spank but plenty of people do. It is generally not harmful to kids (at least, judging from people who were spanked, but not abused). I do t care, I’m still not into it, but it’s false to say it’s child abuse.

My mother hit me ONCE, once, with a wooden spoon. It honestly broke my world to realize someone I loved the most would hit me with a hard blunt object. It never happened again, but I'm 41 and it's as vivid in my head today as on that day. I was about 8. I was not abused and not hit otherwise (I may have gotten a slap on the cheek).

I agree with you. My Dad died when I was young (11) and I have very few memories of him, but the few that I have involve corporal punishment from him. That is not something I want my kid to remember about me when she is older.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

Nope. Teacher here. One of my kids was kit with a belt in the face. The buckle caused a mark. Anyway, CPS said because it was the parent's first offense, nothing happened to them. Next time, I'm sure his parents will hit here where it can't be seen.

This is so sad.

Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

Nope. Teacher here. One of my kids was kit with a belt in the face. The buckle caused a mark. Anyway, CPS said because it was the parent's first offense, nothing happened to them. Next time, I'm sure his parents will hit here where it can't be seen.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

No, it isn’t. I don’t spank but plenty of people do. It is generally not harmful to kids (at least, judging from people who were spanked, but not abused). I do t care, I’m still not into it, but it’s false to say it’s child abuse.

My mother hit me ONCE, once, with a wooden spoon. It honestly broke my world to realize someone I loved the most would hit me with a hard blunt object. It never happened again, but I'm 41 and it's as vivid in my head today as on that day. I was about 8. I was not abused and not hit otherwise (I may have gotten a slap on the cheek).

Where is your coworker from? Did she grow up in poverty?

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Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

No, it isn’t. I don’t spank but plenty of people do. It is generally not harmful to kids (at least, judging from people who were spanked, but not abused). I do t care, I’m still not into it, but it’s false to say it’s child abuse.

Well speaking from personal experience it is definitely abuse. That’s like saying that a functional alcoholic is not really an alcoholic.

I’m always surprised at how many people still spank or use a belt with their child or other forms of corporal punishment with their child. Although, supposedly, parents use other forms of discipline more so then when I was growing up (I was a child of the 70’s). I know doctors and other educators are now more vocal with trying to teach parents other methods. But many still fall back on how they were raised.

Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

OP - she definitely wasn’t. She said one of them had already gotten the belt.

Anonymous wrote:I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

No, it isn’t. I don’t spank but plenty of people do. It is generally not harmful to kids (at least, judging from people who were spanked, but not abused). I do t care, I’m still not into it, but it’s false to say it’s child abuse.

I bet she was joking. Hitting a child with a belt is child abuse.

My coworker (back when we were still in the office as essential workers but schools had already closed) and I were talking in the lunch room. I asked how she was holding up with the kids out of school to commiserate and she said “Fine. If they act up I introduce them to the belt.” I was pretty shocked but didn’t say anything.

Since I’m usually so surprised by reactions here on DCUM, which makes me feel like I’m totally out of the norm on everything, I’m wondering if this is common and I just didn’t know it? We never have spanked our kids and most certainly will never use a belt.