I stay at home and I basically run the house. My husband plays a supporting role and “helps” but doesn’t take any responsibility for specific chores and has no handle whatsoever on the mental load type stuff. For instance, he will see me working well past when he is finished working and once in a while say “let me finish those dishes.” etc. On weekends he will throw a load of laundry in the dryer (but would never initiate a load) and otherwise will do a chore if I ask him to. We are at probably 95/5% on weekdays, which is OK because the house is my job. But still at about 85/15% after his work hours and weekends. I get that it’s not rocket science but my day is definitely longer than his and more physically demanding. The people whose husbands get up w the kid so they can sleep sound lucky! My day starts before his and ends after his.

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Anonymous wrote:Yard work, wash the cars, will help with other things sometimes, but I do all the shopping, laundry (he will sometimes fold), cleaning. He is doing the homeschooling so I can sleep later so I'm good with doing all the rest as I hate that more than scrubbing our toilet. Mine is working a lot.

Maybe it's just one poster over and over again, but I swear the number of times I have heard a SAHM say her husband does the morning or whatever so she can sleep in really perpetuates the stereotype of SAHMs being lazy.

Dp here. When we had 2 kids and I was working, DH used to let me sleep in one day a week. Now we have 3 kids. Sleeping in at our house is 8am. Occasionally DH will make breakfast and I get to stay in bed. It is really not that big of a deal.

DH is home and he sees how exhausting our toddler is. She is go, go, go all day.

I can’t wait for the day that we can all occasionally sleep in.

Anonymous wrote:Yard work, wash the cars, will help with other things sometimes, but I do all the shopping, laundry (he will sometimes fold), cleaning. He is doing the homeschooling so I can sleep later so I'm good with doing all the rest as I hate that more than scrubbing our toilet. Mine is working a lot.

Maybe it's just one poster over and over again, but I swear the number of times I have heard a SAHM say her husband does the morning or whatever so she can sleep in really perpetuates the stereotype of SAHMs being lazy.

We both work at home right now, and everything is pretty evenly split right down the middle. He cooks more, I do more laundry.

I’m a SAHM if 3. DH does the trash and his own laundry. He also takes the lead on most financial stuff, though I am involved too. He will often do the dishes after I cook dinner, but he cooks sometimes too and whoever has a moment usually starts washing pots and pans. I do all the kid stuff - doctors, extra curricular sign ups, clothing, school stuff and he lets me sleep in on weekends. We pay to have our (small) yard mowed weekly and mulched once a year, we don’t do a lot of yard work other than occasionally weeding, which he does 75% and I pitch in some. Since I am home I do all the waiting for repair people, taking cars to the shop etc. Neither of us are particularly handy, if something needs to be fixed, odds are I will be the one to call about it.

Anonymous wrote:I could +1 so many of these! Dh hates clutter, tosses everything! He does dishes, trash, his laundry, kids bedtime, half the dinners and all the yard work. He cleans the floors and windows often but I usually do counters/floors.

Forgot to mention he feeds the dog and does all the bike stuff too. He cooks or we go out sat/sun. I know he does way more than he should (even when kids were babies he did most nights despite being the one who had to go to work) but I think he just has this battery that keeps him powered to happily move along. He also mixes my mules at night and does most of the trip planning with my input on what I want to do.

Finances, breakfast, occasional bedtime. I do everything including taking out the trash.

But I have help so it’s not a problem. We hire out lawn pool etc.

I could +1 so many of these! Dh hates clutter, tosses everything! He does dishes, trash, his laundry, kids bedtime, half the dinners and all the yard work. He cleans the floors and windows often but I usually do counters/floors.

We split house stuff probably 85/15% and the make up of that varies. I never ask him to do things, but he does laundry/trash/dishes/floors when he sees it needs to be done. Kid stuff we do together when he's home. Sometimes he does stuff with them solo but I generally join because FOMO.

All breakfasts, all dinner cleanup, all car stuff, all bikes, all travel planning, all date night planning, shares financial tasks, does taxes, does his own wardrobe aside from at-home laundry (dry cleaning and shopping), keeps garage clean, implements and coaches soccer, implements violin lessons with daily practice for one kid. I'm satisfied.

Car stuff, trash stuff, dog stuff, errands. We have yard and housekeeper. I do all laundry and most kitchen stuff.

SAHM of 3. DH does more housework than I do. We live in a 10,000sf house and we have a PT housekeeper. DH does dishes most nights, vacuums, takes out the trash, tidies up the toys. Stray toys don’t bother me the way it does for him. He also can’t stand clutter. I often get annoyed at him for moving school forms or invitations. He will clean them up and not know what papers I am referring to.

He does his own laundry, most of the yard work, trash/recycling and scooping the litter boxes, will sometimes cook dinner on the weekends. Helps clean up after dinner. Does the cats’ vet appointments and wakes up at the crack of dawn with our senior cat who needs reassurances that “his people” are still around in the middle of the night. He is fairly handy around the house and can do most minor to moderate repairs and projects.

Yard work, wash the cars, will help with other things sometimes, but I do all the shopping, laundry (he will sometimes fold), cleaning. He is doing the homeschooling so I can sleep later so I'm good with doing all the rest as I hate that more than scrubbing our toilet. Mine is working a lot.

Out of curiosity (and possibly to open up a huge can of worms... )

SAHP's...lay out what you do around the house right now and what your other working half does.