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Anonymous wrote:Hugs, OP. I get it. And there’s no break now. Just do what you need to to get through the day.

I am doing what I need to do. My kid is playing video games 14 hours a day. And then is a COMPLETE jerk whenever he graces me with his presence. I hate this. I hate raising this kid. I hate dealing with the nonexistent medical services (no diagnosis means that when he gets violent we now just call 911 and go to the hospital). I need him to go back to school.

When my son was a tween and young teen, he was unusually grumpy the rare times we allowed him to play video games for long periods of time. Unusually in the sense that he's never grumpy otherwise! He can watch movies or videos, or work on screens all day, and it's fine. This grumpiness if specific to gaming. Now he's not allowed to game all day.

If you can, try no video games at all as a reset, then setting a limit to an hour in the morning, an hour in the evening, or whatever you think is feasible. He might be in a much better mood.

OP, I just went for a walk with my DH and said almost the same thing. I said, "we were so happy before...Larla has destroyed us! It's like human nature; oh, we're in a good place so let's do something that's actually risky to our happiness, like have a kid..."

It's really messed up our family and I think it's messed up our other kid.

And it's not like they turn 18 and you can just never see them again...it's a lifetime membership.

I'm so sorry, OP. I, too, have an autistic child. I'm praying for you.

Anonymous wrote:I hate it. I HATE AUTISM. It is the WORST thing that has EVER happened to my family. It has destroyed ALL semblance of normalcy or any kind of PEACE in my house. I hate being a mother to an autistic child. I HATE IT.

hugs

How old is he and what kind of therapy has he done in the past?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hugs, OP. I get it. And there’s no break now. Just do what you need to to get through the day.

I am doing what I need to do. My kid is playing video games 14 hours a day. And then is a COMPLETE jerk whenever he graces me with his presence. I hate this. I hate raising this kid. I hate dealing with the nonexistent medical services (no diagnosis means that when he gets violent we now just call 911 and go to the hospital). I need him to go back to school.

So hard OP. I’m sorry. My kid is watching more tv than I’d like and that does make kids in a foul mood. Top that with autism it’s awful. The video games are the same. Not lecturing. Can an ABA therapist come next month? I know more more affected kids in my area some therapists were still working. The routine and therapy would be good an give you a break!

I'm sorry. I've had days like those. Today I chose not having a major meltdown (for him or me) over any kind of academic work which he really needs. I know that the ARC of MoCo has gotten rid of respite income limits if you are comfortable with having someone in your house.

If there’s no diagnosis, how do you know it’s autism? It could be ADHD or OCD or ODD or any number of things. Autism doesn’t automatically mean difficult or violent. People with autism are often rigid or repetitive, but if the behavior is extreme there’s probably more going on.

Does he have a psychiatrist? Many are now doing teleconferences.

I’m sorry you’re feeling stressed. It’s a hard time for everyone and some kids have a hard time expressing their emotions appropriately.

OP I’m very sorry.

This is so hard.

That sounds so hard. I’m sorry.

Anonymous wrote:Hugs, OP. I get it. And there’s no break now. Just do what you need to to get through the day.

I am doing what I need to do. My kid is playing video games 14 hours a day. And then is a COMPLETE jerk whenever he graces me with his presence. I hate this. I hate raising this kid. I hate dealing with the nonexistent medical services (no diagnosis means that when he gets violent we now just call 911 and go to the hospital). I need him to go back to school.

I completely understand and empathize, and I’m so sorry.

Im sorry you’re having such a hard time. I hope tomorrow is a better day.

Hugs, OP. I get it. And there’s no break now. Just do what you need to to get through the day.

I hate it. I HATE AUTISM. It is the WORST thing that has EVER happened to my family. It has destroyed ALL semblance of normalcy or any kind of PEACE in my house. I hate being a mother to an autistic child. I HATE IT.