Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Acting on your desires doesn't mean you don't love the other person.

To me, loving another person means treating them with the dignity and respect that comes with a loving relationship. Acting on your desires without regard for their feelings and trust flies in the face of love. But if you don't believe that then we most certainly have a different concept of grown-up love.

Do you think the age of the person makes a difference? If you’re in your early 20s and haven’t matured yet as opposed to someone who has been an adult for a longer time?

Do you think someone can comeback from doing something like this, or should you just be done with them?

DP but I would be done with them because it's part of their personality and that isn't going to change. If they can't be faithful to you when you are in your 20's and in your prime with little pressures around you then how will it be when you are older with more responsibilities and children in the picture. I would see that person as flaky and not someone I want to go through life with.

Equally I don't think I could be bothered staying married to someone who chose to have an affair and ruin a marriage. I would consider that they have opted out of the marriage and it's dead already.

Life is too short to waste on someone who deceives you and disrespects you. I would rather be single than be in a bad marriage.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Acting on your desires doesn't mean you don't love the other person.

To me, loving another person means treating them with the dignity and respect that comes with a loving relationship. Acting on your desires without regard for their feelings and trust flies in the face of love. But if you don't believe that then we most certainly have a different concept of grown-up love.

In the same way that a wife can LOVE her husband, but not want sex with him.... a husband can LOVE his wife, while having sex with a random woman.

The average man gets rejected a zillion more times than the average woman, So when an opportunity comes along, its hard to turn it down.

Anonymous wrote:

Acting on your desires doesn't mean you don't love the other person.

To me, loving another person means treating them with the dignity and respect that comes with a loving relationship. Acting on your desires without regard for their feelings and trust flies in the face of love. But if you don't believe that then we most certainly have a different concept of grown-up love.

In the same way that a wife can LOVE her husband, but not want sex with him.... a husband can LOVE his wife, while having sex with a random woman.

I'm a big man with Big D Energy and I am easily capable of loving more than one woman at a time.

I think it has nothing to do with his feelings towards his wife. He could absolutely love her and appreciate her as a friend yet cheat on the side. I’d feel differently if there was an emotional connection or long term AP.

Anonymous wrote:

Acting on your desires doesn't mean you don't love the other person.

To me, loving another person means treating them with the dignity and respect that comes with a loving relationship. Acting on your desires without regard for their feelings and trust flies in the face of love. But if you don't believe that then we most certainly have a different concept of grown-up love.

Do you think the age of the person makes a difference? If you’re in your early 20s and haven’t matured yet as opposed to someone who has been an adult for a longer time?

Do you think someone can comeback from doing something like this, or should you just be done with them?

Acting on your desires doesn't mean you don't love the other person.

To me, loving another person means treating them with the dignity and respect that comes with a loving relationship. Acting on your desires without regard for their feelings and trust flies in the face of love. But if you don't believe that then we most certainly have a different concept of grown-up love.

Anonymous wrote:If you’ve ever loved a woman but weren’t faithful to her, can you share your perspective on how/why this occurred?

I loved all of them.

Got cheated on so decided that if I was going to get involved with someone, would do it just in case it happened again. That way, I would at least be even.

Love and sex are two different things. Lots of people love someone, but crave someone else. Acting on your desires doesn't mean you don't love the other person.

I did this once before I was married because I was in a job situation where I was away from home for several months in a “romantic” locale. I was very lonely and my girlfriend couldn’t visit.

It ended up leaving me confused and in a bad situation overall.

the chase then on to the next.

It’s not love.

It happened because I could.

If you’ve ever loved a woman but weren’t faithful to her, can you share your perspective on how/why this occurred?