Anonymous wrote:When I was young, I romanticized big families.

But, it’s pretty narcissistic to want to overpopulate the world with your offspring isn’t it? And selfish. Even if you have all the money I’m the world, what makes you think you and your family are actually “value add?” And if you aren’t thinking about it that way, you should be.

Agree with this. Extremely selfish and self-absorbed to have so many.

I have seven and sound similar. My husband is a surgeon and I don’t work. We go to church occasionally, but it has nothing to do with the number of kids we have. We just really like kids. My kids go to public school and all are really involved in sports and extracurriculars.
I will warn that they do get so much more expensive as high school hits. We are feeling a bit of a financial crunch as the three older ones hit high school that we didn’t feel when they were younger.
No regrets here. We are done at 7 but I would have loved to have more if I felt we could handle it (age and finances are mostly why we stopped).

Just not enough time for each child IMO. At some point they become a herd rather than individuals.

How old are your current children?

I would be worried about how the economy is affecting law jobs- ie a major contraction.

Anonymous wrote:When I was young, I romanticized big families.

But, it’s pretty narcissistic to want to overpopulate the world with your offspring isn’t it? And selfish. Even if you have all the money I’m the world, what makes you think you and your family are actually “value add?” And if you aren’t thinking about it that way, you should be.

Buzz off

When I was young, I romanticized big families.

But, it’s pretty narcissistic to want to overpopulate the world with your offspring isn’t it? And selfish. Even if you have all the money I’m the world, what makes you think you and your family are actually “value add?” And if you aren’t thinking about it that way, you should be.

Go for it! I would love to have a fifth but I’ve had 3 csections and don’t want to do another one. So stopping at 4 but jealous of people who can have more!

Disagree with 4:54.
Who will raise the children if you die in a car crash?

I love big families.

Maybe someday have another child, but not in these times. Wait until there is a vaccine. One medical expert said this could go on for three years. Who would take care of children if something happened to you?

I have five. Of all our privileges, the freedom to have as many children as our heart desired is the greatest. I have relatively similar circumstances but I didn't work when my kids were young. DH came into big tech right at on the ground level so we've done pretty well. We raised ours in San Francisco. There weren't any other families as big as ours in the neighborhood but we weren't seen as crazy just a tad rowdy. My youngest went to college 15 years ago so things have probably changed one way or another.

Anonymous wrote:
1. Do you have enough money?

2. Do you enough time?

3. Do you have enough health and energy?

Those are questions only you can answer.

This. We stopped at 2 because we knew the life we could provide them would be great. At 3, some of that was taken away.

1. Do you have enough money?

2. Do you enough time?

3. Do you have enough health and energy?

Those are questions only you can answer.

Anonymous wrote:We have four kids right now and are thinking about having a fifth. We're not religious. We believe in birth control. We live in Chevy Chase. DH works full time and I work part time - both of us are attorneys. We don't fit the image of people who have five kids. At least, what I think of. I actually don't know anyone who has more than four kids that isn't either Mormon or Catholic. But it feels right for us. Do any of you have more than four kids? Do you know anyone that does? I'm curious about big families with somewhat similar profiles to ours. Who decided to draw the line at four being "hip" and five being "nuts?"

I think economics decides this for most people. Fitting in a car, fitting in a house, traveling, college, weddings. Those things might not be an issue for you, but they are for many.

We do, but it involves a blended family. Four from one, two from the other. We're not religions, and do believe in birth control.

We have four kids right now and are thinking about having a fifth. We're not religious. We believe in birth control. We live in Chevy Chase. DH works full time and I work part time - both of us are attorneys. We don't fit the image of people who have five kids. At least, what I think of. I actually don't know anyone who has more than four kids that isn't either Mormon or Catholic. But it feels right for us. Do any of you have more than four kids? Do you know anyone that does? I'm curious about big families with somewhat similar profiles to ours. Who decided to draw the line at four being "hip" and five being "nuts?"