We struggled with this for years. I was raised Catholic but I’m a closet atheist now. Still, I just sort of liked the idea of baptizing my kids. I’m not even sure why. I knew it would make my family happy, and I wanted them to go to a catholic school.

In the end we didn’t baptize them because I felt like it would be kind of disrespectful somehow, especially since many in my family know that DH and I don’t believe in God.

I still kind of wish we had done it. There’s something sweet about a baptism and it’s part of our culture.

Anonymous wrote:We had both kids baptized because it was important to grandparents. Not sure what would be wrong with it if everyone’s on board.

This is what we did.

Anonymous wrote:If you're baptizing in a Catholic church, you will actively have to lie throughout the ceremony. Awkward....

This is not true at every catholic church. I was not asked that question, ever, at the ceremony or before.

Anonymous wrote:If you're baptizing in a Catholic church, you will actively have to lie throughout the ceremony. Awkward....

I guess it’s good that not everyone is Catholic, then. Not awkward...

We have one believing parent and one not. We baptized. I had to be far more vocal than I would have liked in order to opt myself out of the ceremony. I had no intention of drawing attention to myself but there was language they wanted me to speak which I would not.

Don't do it. Just put it off and then if asked point blank tell people the truth.

My aunt almost pleaded with me to get my son baptized. "Even if it's not true, the alternative that it is true and you didn't get him baptized is too great."

I responded that a religion and parishioners who believe my innocent, sinless, infant would go to hell if he dies unbaptized is not a religion I would chose to follow. My son is free to chose religion/baptism for himself when he is old enough to make that decision. She dropped it.

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Anonymous wrote:We had both kids baptized because it was important to grandparents. Not sure what would be wrong with it if everyone’s on board.

The point of baptism is swearing that you will raise the child in faith.

So?
What does the parents beliefs have to do with that? It is not like you are raising your child to be Muslim or Hindu or Buddhist
You celebrate Easter and Christmas, get married in church, have burial services there

Non believers are going to church on Christmas and Easter? Get married in church? No. Stand up to your parents.

If you're baptizing in a Catholic church, you will actively have to lie throughout the ceremony. Awkward....

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Anonymous wrote:We had both kids baptized because it was important to grandparents. Not sure what would be wrong with it if everyone’s on board.

The point of baptism is swearing that you will raise the child in faith.

So?
What does the parents beliefs have to do with that? It is not like you are raising your child to be Muslim or Hindu or Buddhist
You celebrate Easter and Christmas, get married in church, have burial services there

Anonymous wrote:We had both kids baptized because it was important to grandparents. Not sure what would be wrong with it if everyone’s on board.

The point of baptism is swearing that you will raise the child in faith.

Anonymous wrote:It’s the height of hypocrisy to baptize the baby of non believers.

How so?

It’s the height of hypocrisy to baptize the baby of non believers.

We had both kids baptized because it was important to grandparents. Not sure what would be wrong with it if everyone’s on board.

Why do you ask?
How do you determine what the parents believe?

Doesn't the Bible say that you need to baptize?

Is it wrong to baptize a baby if the parents aren't believers? Or is it justified if it will give peace to grandparents and promote family harmony?