Anonymous wrote:We had the same choice years back in 2012. We had bought inbounds for Murch and got into LAMB.
Primarily for Spanish reasons, we chose LAMB over Murch. We have reconsidered multiple times throughout those years, and I often still wonder if this was the best decision. In fact, it was the best decision probably for 2 of our 3 children (who have SNs) ---but not for our 3rd kid who could do well anywhere and would rather be in the neighborhood. But it's hard to know how your kids will turn out and what they will need.
If you have any inkling that either of your children might have special needs, go with LAMB. They do really well with IEPs and Montessori is pretty understanding of difference. I have heard mixed reports on Much for kids with SNs. I also have compared kids with IEPs for similar diagnoses at Murch to our child, and they usually get half the hours of what the kids at LAMB are getting. You do have to advocate for an SN kid, at any school.
Unfortunately, it's really hard to know if your kids have SN when your kids are so young. One of my children was highly verbal at a very young age and everyone commented that he was super-smart when he was a toddler/preschooler. Turns out he has the most special needs of all of them! (The one who seemed a little slow to pick up on stuff as a toddler is the one that is neuro-typical and has no trouble in school). But ask yourself if SN could be a reality down the line: do we have any unusual traits in our family? Did one parent - or a grandparent - struggle to learn to read/write? Is anyone a terrible speller, or still a slower reader even though well-educated? Any awkward social skills among family members? Any high-energy folks who might have trouble, even a little, with self-regulation?
It also matters a lot where you want to send your kids to middle school. For my SN kids, I am not excited about either Deal or DCI (despite them being great options overall). For neuro-typical kid, again, either middle school will probably be good.
Thanks, this is really helpful. Not too worried about SN, but it's certainly possible and too young to tell, especially for our second! I was really hoping not to think too much about middle school yet, given my oldest kid isn't yet 3... but such is the system we have