Anonymous
04/05/2020 16:19
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sigh. this was a tough conversation. We will pay in full for the first 5 weeks- we've been quarantining since early March- and will move to half pay for at least this month. She normally lives with us and does not have any dependents, so she had the flexibility to stay with us during this period. We asked if she would consider quarantining with us so she could continue to watch our LO, and offered to compensate her additionally to do so while her hours would remain unchanged. We feel that we offered her a reasonable way to continue working during these circumstances, as well as a reasonable period of full compensation when she opted not to. I might get flamed for it, but this is the agreement we reached, and I want to represent on this board that it is not feasible for everyone to continue paying their nannies in full when they won't be working potentially for a long period of time, during what is a financially uncertain time for most of us.
Live-in nanny here. You are being overly generous. She’s normally a live-in, but moved out to avoid working, yet still wants to be paid. Nope, no way.
+1 She can be with her family on LWOP.
Anonymous
04/04/2020 23:20
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
We are paying full salary through the end of April ($29 per hour, for our full time nanny who has been with us for years) and have offered at that point to either pay her a stipend of $400 per week or, if she chooses, let her go so she can seek other employment. We just can't afford to keep paying her at that point and can't have her come. No easy answers here.
Anonymous
04/04/2020 22:58
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Anonymous wrote:Sigh. this was a tough conversation. We will pay in full for the first 5 weeks- we've been quarantining since early March- and will move to half pay for at least this month. She normally lives with us and does not have any dependents, so she had the flexibility to stay with us during this period. We asked if she would consider quarantining with us so she could continue to watch our LO, and offered to compensate her additionally to do so while her hours would remain unchanged. We feel that we offered her a reasonable way to continue working during these circumstances, as well as a reasonable period of full compensation when she opted not to. I might get flamed for it, but this is the agreement we reached, and I want to represent on this board that it is not feasible for everyone to continue paying their nannies in full when they won't be working potentially for a long period of time, during what is a financially uncertain time for most of us.
Live-in nanny here. You are being overly generous. She’s normally a live-in, but moved out to avoid working, yet still wants to be paid. Nope, no way.
Anonymous
04/04/2020 22:23
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Anonymous wrote:+1Anonymous wrote:How long are you getting paid OP? I would match that. Also nannies for some reason aren’t subject to the stay at home orders because they’re classified as essential caregivers. (Whether that’s morally correct when there are 2 parents to give care is another issue.)
I think this was a decent perspective a month ago, when it was not immediately clear that we’d be homebound for months. It’s hard to justify paying people their full salaries when they cannot do their job remotely. And as far as our own compensation goes, it will definitely be impacted. Lots of employers are doing lay offs, pay cuts, and at best, withholding or diminishing bonuses. It gets unsustainable to keep paying nannies at full salary when they’re not actually working, you’re trying to do their job and your own, and your own income is being potentially impacted. It’s obviously a personal decision but for many people, childcare is a large, substantial expense that’s not sustainable without the actual help.
Anonymous
04/04/2020 22:15
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sigh. this was a tough conversation. We will pay in full for the first 5 weeks- we've been quarantining since early March- and will move to half pay for at least this month. She normally lives with us and does not have any dependents, so she had the flexibility to stay with us during this period. We asked if she would consider quarantining with us so she could continue to watch our LO, and offered to compensate her additionally to do so while her hours would remain unchanged. We feel that we offered her a reasonable way to continue working during these circumstances, as well as a reasonable period of full compensation when she opted not to. I might get flamed for it, but this is the agreement we reached, and I want to represent on this board that it is not feasible for everyone to continue paying their nannies in full when they won't be working potentially for a long period of time, during what is a financially uncertain time for most of us.
I think you were being too generous. What was her reason for not living with you, even though she usually does? She doesn’t seem to care about your family at all. I would have fired her.
Her reason was that she wanted to be with family/home. She went to stay with a relative. She would live with relatives during the weekend normally. We quarantined a few weeks earlier than most people, and she was still attending church, which we were uncomfortable with. Once her group shut down, we re-offered her to quarantine in our home after a period of isolation, and she still declined. At that point we felt that she would rather stay home and not work. But we’re trying to be understanding. We know some people being more generous than we are, but mostly for live out nannies. The other live in’s I know of have all stayed with their employer families.
Anonymous
04/04/2020 21:59
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
+1Anonymous wrote:How long are you getting paid OP? I would match that. Also nannies for some reason aren’t subject to the stay at home orders because they’re classified as essential caregivers. (Whether that’s morally correct when there are 2 parents to give care is another issue.)
Anonymous
04/04/2020 21:34
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Anonymous wrote:Sigh. this was a tough conversation. We will pay in full for the first 5 weeks- we've been quarantining since early March- and will move to half pay for at least this month. She normally lives with us and does not have any dependents, so she had the flexibility to stay with us during this period. We asked if she would consider quarantining with us so she could continue to watch our LO, and offered to compensate her additionally to do so while her hours would remain unchanged. We feel that we offered her a reasonable way to continue working during these circumstances, as well as a reasonable period of full compensation when she opted not to. I might get flamed for it, but this is the agreement we reached, and I want to represent on this board that it is not feasible for everyone to continue paying their nannies in full when they won't be working potentially for a long period of time, during what is a financially uncertain time for most of us.
I think you were being too generous. What was her reason for not living with you, even though she usually does? She doesn’t seem to care about your family at all. I would have fired her.
Anonymous
04/04/2020 20:32
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Sigh. this was a tough conversation. We will pay in full for the first 5 weeks- we've been quarantining since early March- and will move to half pay for at least this month. She normally lives with us and does not have any dependents, so she had the flexibility to stay with us during this period. We asked if she would consider quarantining with us so she could continue to watch our LO, and offered to compensate her additionally to do so while her hours would remain unchanged. We feel that we offered her a reasonable way to continue working during these circumstances, as well as a reasonable period of full compensation when she opted not to. I might get flamed for it, but this is the agreement we reached, and I want to represent on this board that it is not feasible for everyone to continue paying their nannies in full when they won't be working potentially for a long period of time, during what is a financially uncertain time for most of us.
Anonymous
04/03/2020 15:24
Subject: If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Anonymous wrote:Until they realize it's unsustainable. Time will vary.
Seriously... so many dolts on here.
Anonymous
04/03/2020 15:24
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Anonymous wrote:How long are you getting paid OP? I would match that. Also nannies for some reason aren’t subject to the stay at home orders because they’re classified as essential caregivers. (Whether that’s morally correct when there are 2 parents to give care is another issue.)
Presumably OP is being paid to actually work.
Anonymous
04/03/2020 15:03
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
A couple more weeks and then we'll reevaluate. If I could create a totally closed loop with my family and my nanny, I would still be having her come. But I can't. She lives with her MIL who works at a grocery store and her husband who works in a factory, so I'm worried about exposure.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 23:20
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
How long are you getting paid OP? I would match that. Also nannies for some reason aren’t subject to the stay at home orders because they’re classified as essential caregivers. (Whether that’s morally correct when there are 2 parents to give care is another issue.)
Anonymous
04/02/2020 23:12
Subject: Re:If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
We agreed to pay her through April and then will discuss from there.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 22:58
Subject: If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
Until they realize it's unsustainable. Time will vary.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 22:57
Subject: If your nanny isn’t coming but you are paying her...
For how long?