Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hire a nanny who lives alone and can drive to work. Ask her about social distancing in phone interview. She has to be 100% on board with no unnecessary contact with other people on weekends and so do you and DH. You have to have a closed system. Some families even buy the nanny’s groceries when they do once a week shopping.

This is what we do (drive nanny and include her groceries in our delivery orders)

+2.

Anonymous wrote:I have a very active 3 year old and a 3 month old at home and I am loosing my mind. I have to go back to work next week ( I am lucky and can work remotely as can my husband) and I think I need to hire help but am terrified to have someone in the house. Are people still having babysitters/ nannies come over? Not sure how we are supposed to do a 3 month old, 3 year old and 2 full time jobs without help? Help?

No. Everyone is struggling to make it work. It sucks but you cannot have people from outside in your house.

We are both working and essential. We only need 3 hours a day due to shift work but are still having our sitter come. We ask her to wash her hands as soon as she walks in the door but aside from that trust that she is doing the right things.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Time to switch to being a full-time mom. This is a one-year glitch in history Give your attention to your kids.

Working moms ARE full time moms. With better outcomes for kids to boot!

Both of you, stop. Take the stupid debate elsewhere.

Anonymous wrote:Hire a nanny who lives alone and can drive to work. Ask her about social distancing in phone interview. She has to be 100% on board with no unnecessary contact with other people on weekends and so do you and DH. You have to have a closed system. Some families even buy the nanny’s groceries when they do once a week shopping.

This is what we do (drive nanny and include her groceries in our delivery orders)

Anonymous wrote:Time to switch to being a full-time mom. This is a one-year glitch in history Give your attention to your kids.

Working moms ARE full time moms. With better outcomes for kids to boot!

Pp here. We are uncomfortable with a nanny for the reasons you mention. Plus.we have a small apartment.

OP, and tips on handeling both at once? I'm drowning with a 10 week old and 23 mo old while on maternity leave.

To answer your question, I pushed my return date by a bit and had planned to do part time for a bit too, but even that seems unrealistic in the current environment. Is part time an option even for just a few weeks? If the current situation lasts 2 more months, buying yourself even just a few weeks can be helpful.

Anyone have tips on managing 2 kids when one is an infant (beyond splitting shifts?

Anonymous wrote:Time to switch to being a full-time mom. This is a one-year glitch in history Give your attention to your kids.

NP. Not everyone has the luxury of being able to completely drop out of the workforce for a year.

Hire a nanny who lives alone and can drive to work. Ask her about social distancing in phone interview. She has to be 100% on board with no unnecessary contact with other people on weekends and so do you and DH. You have to have a closed system. Some families even buy the nanny’s groceries when they do once a week shopping.

We still have our nanny come. She's not seeing anyone except us. She drives to us and has groceries delivered. Maryland, where we reside (our nanny as well) has issued clarification to the Executive Order stating persons providing childcare in the home are essential.

https://governor.maryland.gov/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/OLC-Interpretive-Guidance-COVID19-08.pdf

You can't do it all. I really really suggest you push back your going back to work date by a month or two if you can afford it.
If you're going to be working from home and have a babysitter that's new to you and the older one it'll be very hard for everyone.

Time to switch to being a full-time mom. This is a one-year glitch in history Give your attention to your kids.

I know, but that’s what everyone is doing. It’s tough and you’ll just have to do the best you can.

I have a very active 3 year old and a 3 month old at home and I am loosing my mind. I have to go back to work next week ( I am lucky and can work remotely as can my husband) and I think I need to hire help but am terrified to have someone in the house. Are people still having babysitters/ nannies come over? Not sure how we are supposed to do a 3 month old, 3 year old and 2 full time jobs without help? Help?