Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 13:04     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Uh. Divorce?
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 13:04     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:I will start. Trying to give her massages without asking. Haven’t seen progress yet. Will report back.


A few things:

- do it to start without expecting anything in return
- use coconut oil (unscented). It can also be used as a great lubricant
- I have used this oil with my DW for a few years now. Started off we’d have sex maybe 2/3 times out of every 10 times I did it. I did it about 2-3
Times per week. The past year, I have done it 1-2 times a week (not consistently) and have had zero sex from it even though she loves it. I typically get the “that felt so good - I’m so relaxed and tired”. Message received.

Good look gents
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:57     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Mine refuses to go on getaways by ourselves
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:56     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Arrange for a sitter to watch the kids then take her on a romantic getaway just the two of you......um, well maybe not now.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:54     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:This kid a waste of time.


This IS a waste of time. Not kid.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:54     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
This kid a waste of time.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:50     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:^^ did you do that? How’s that going?


Yes and (amazingly) she "found" her libido
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:47     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:Do not accept a sexless marriage. If she's not interested, declare the marriage open. Problem solved in 15 seconds.


And you're here. Didn't take long.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:47     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
^^ did you do that? How’s that going?
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:45     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Do not accept a sexless marriage. If she's not interested, declare the marriage open. Problem solved in 15 seconds.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:38     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Cheating didn’t end the marriage? Will it end when the kids are out?
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:37     Subject: Re:Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
I have come full circle to accepted celibacy, and least for the time being. A decade of conversations and trying everything did nothing but lower frequency. I cheated, then got caught so no we are down from sex 1x a month to none which I find better than the 1x of Mercy sex she didn't want anyway.

Kids are middle school so only 6 years till last is out of the house.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:36     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
^^ it appears someone of the opposite sex has popped in here to laugh at us
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:34     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
I will start. Trying to give her massages without asking. Haven’t seen progress yet. Will report back.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2020 12:27     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Ok guys. Here’s our group. How are you handling this? What has worked; what hasn’t? How will we go on in this situation? Let’s discuss.