Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:17     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
21:14 -- I quit working a year b4 I had our one and only. As I made more $ the first 15 years of our marriage, that helped DH be ok with me not working. Also my Father gives me $ at Christmas so we laugh about how being my Dad's daughter is my part time job.

DH and I have a solid marriage which is very important to making the SAHM dynamic work. An emotionally abusive husband would definitely make it way more difficult. Sorry, no easy answers to that situation.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:17     Subject: Re:Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
I’d have to quit my job—so no.

It’s challenging trying to work full time from home with kids at home.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:15     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am so happy at home. I have a very well paying job so it is hard to give up. But I am happier, my child is happier and calmer. I am so happy to be home and wondering if anyone else is contemplating quitting after this.


OP here - my kid is 2.5 and I feel like I’ve missed the last 2.5 years. He’s so excited to have me home it feels sad - like he shouldn’t be so excited to have his mom


I think that maybe you're giving him a little extra attention and he likes that. Take this lesson with you when you go back to work! Carve out more "Just Mommy" time.


That’s a good idea but I work really long hours and a few times a week I’m home 9/10 pm. And when I’m home I’m harried. I also travel a lot for work and I feel like it’s a constant battle to keep my head above water. I have a running list of things I want to do with him that never get done and I focus all my energy on play dates and classes on the weekends. But this has given both of us a time to breathe and just be with each other and not be so harried. I’ve started to think “quality time” is a cruel joke (for us).

Coming home at 10 is really late plus you travel a lot. If you are so well paid there’s probably a decently paid job out there that won’t require those hours.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:14     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Anonymous wrote:To PP who has the good paying job that her family needs -- I am so glad you are getting some extra time with your son. If you enjoy your job, stay with it. Enjoy the break for what it is -- a nice break.

FWIW, I worked 20 years and then at 40 had my only child and stayed home with her for 20 years. She is now a freshman at college home for now due to coronavirus.


This is me - OP- exactly! Had my first and only at 40! Worked for over 20 years and feel so much like I am missing being with him. I have an emotionally abusive husband who is the only reason I have not quit. But wondering if I am hurting myself long-run by not being with DC. This has been a wonderful time for us. How did dynamics in your marriage change? Any tips?
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:13     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Stayed at home for 2+ years. Went back to work a year ago. We've been quarantined for nearly 2 weeks due to potential exposure.

I can't wait to go back to the office.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:11     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
To PP who has the good paying job that her family needs -- I am so glad you are getting some extra time with your son. If you enjoy your job, stay with it. Enjoy the break for what it is -- a nice break.

FWIW, I worked 20 years and then at 40 had my only child and stayed home with her for 20 years. She is now a freshman at college home for now due to coronavirus.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:04     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
I stay home all the time and would like to continue staying home, but I'll be fine with my kids returning to daily schooling and getting the hell out.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:04     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am so happy at home. I have a very well paying job so it is hard to give up. But I am happier, my child is happier and calmer. I am so happy to be home and wondering if anyone else is contemplating quitting after this.


OP here - my kid is 2.5 and I feel like I’ve missed the last 2.5 years. He’s so excited to have me home it feels sad - like he shouldn’t be so excited to have his mom


I think that maybe you're giving him a little extra attention and he likes that. Take this lesson with you when you go back to work! Carve out more "Just Mommy" time.


That’s a good idea but I work really long hours and a few times a week I’m home 9/10 pm. And when I’m home I’m harried. I also travel a lot for work and I feel like it’s a constant battle to keep my head above water. I have a running list of things I want to do with him that never get done and I focus all my energy on play dates and classes on the weekends. But this has given both of us a time to breathe and just be with each other and not be so harried. I’ve started to think “quality time” is a cruel joke (for us).
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 21:01     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am so happy at home. I have a very well paying job so it is hard to give up. But I am happier, my child is happier and calmer. I am so happy to be home and wondering if anyone else is contemplating quitting after this.


OP here - my kid is 2.5 and I feel like I’ve missed the last 2.5 years. He’s so excited to have me home it feels sad - like he shouldn’t be so excited to have his mom


I think that maybe you're giving him a little extra attention and he likes that. Take this lesson with you when you go back to work! Carve out more "Just Mommy" time.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 20:59     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Anonymous wrote:I am so happy at home. I have a very well paying job so it is hard to give up. But I am happier, my child is happier and calmer. I am so happy to be home and wondering if anyone else is contemplating quitting after this.


OP here - my kid is 2.5 and I feel like I’ve missed the last 2.5 years. He’s so excited to have me home it feels sad - like he shouldn’t be so excited to have his mom
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 20:58     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Staying home with kids in normal times is nothing like staying home with them right now when there is no school, no activities, no friends, etc. The rest of the time even as a SAHM you are running around, the little elementary kids are very tired from school (where I live the bus doesn't even get here until 4:15-4:30) and the big kids are busy with their activities and friend and school drama.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 20:56     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Absolutely not.

But I have a 13 year old boy.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 20:56     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
Part of me wishes I could. My ES kid might do better homeschooled as he's got some challenges. I'm due with my third in August and my 2.5 year old DD is mostly fun to be with.

But I make half the money. It's a lot to give up. We're not rich and walking away from a job in the current environment seems foolish in the extreme. It would be tight on one income. Really tight.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 20:54     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
I realize that I really don’t see them much, but I’m a single parent so back to work I’ll go.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2020 20:53     Subject: Anyone Else Want to Stay Home with Kids After This?
I am so happy at home. I have a very well paying job so it is hard to give up. But I am happier, my child is happier and calmer. I am so happy to be home and wondering if anyone else is contemplating quitting after this.