Anonymous wrote:It was great as we had been very good friends for a few years and we knew each other very well. Once the spark was finally lit it was very smooth from Day 1. The only new real thing in our relationship was sex and spending more one on one time together and the sex was great once we got over the initial awkward phase. But being good friends before we got together was of great value.

We were like this too, very good friends with a bit of innocent flirting but we were both dating others. Then we were both solo and we both had friends who said it’s ridiculous that you two aren’t a couple and I think we both knew it but you’re always worried about wrecking a good friendship. One night we went to a party together and the flirting increased and when he was driving me home I asked him if he wanted to come in and he did and that was it. So easy! We never went through a new relationship frenzy which can lead to a drop off.

Hott, still are 12 years later.

Calm, unhurried, feeling like it was meant to be. The relationship did not feel fragile. I was not concerned about missteps, poor timing, or miscommunication sinking the relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:It was awesome. I've never felt so comfortable dating someone before. It was so nice not to be stressed and trying to make myself into someone I thought he wanted me to be. I didn't have to put a huge effort into it, being with him was just easy and happy. 15 years later, we are still very happy. We are just a good match. It sounds silly but we complement each other so well.

This was us too. Just more comfortable than I’d ever experienced. We both kept commenting that we were more ourselves than ever before in a new relationship.

Agree on this. Just natural, easy, and we can't get enough of each other, then or now.

21 years together

Anonymous wrote:It was awesome. I've never felt so comfortable dating someone before. It was so nice not to be stressed and trying to make myself into someone I thought he wanted me to be. I didn't have to put a huge effort into it, being with him was just easy and happy. 15 years later, we are still very happy. We are just a good match. It sounds silly but we complement each other so well.

This was us too. Just more comfortable than I’d ever experienced. We both kept commenting that we were more ourselves than ever before in a new relationship.

It’s was so easy and comfortable as to be almost scary given my prior relationships always had some early drama. We had very similar backgrounds, educations and temperament so that helped. We also had very nicely matched libidos so we spent a lot of time getting to really know each other.

We talked so much we both got sore throats. I felt like I was floating.

Amazing. We just met each other and knew. We both went back to our home states and found jobs in DC to be together. Both of us were very happily single. I had avoided dating other guys because I really didn't want to be in a relationship, but with him, I knew I couldn't pass him by. You only get one shot sometimes. He wasn't ready for something so serious or so young. He didn't even want to date in his 20s as he was busy with his degree and working long hours in his field.

OP, don’t do it.

It was great as we had been very good friends for a few years and we knew each other very well. Once the spark was finally lit it was very smooth from Day 1. The only new real thing in our relationship was sex and spending more one on one time together and the sex was great once we got over the initial awkward phase. But being good friends before we got together was of great value.

It was awesome. I've never felt so comfortable dating someone before. It was so nice not to be stressed and trying to make myself into someone I thought he wanted me to be. I didn't have to put a huge effort into it, being with him was just easy and happy. 15 years later, we are still very happy. We are just a good match. It sounds silly but we complement each other so well.

Well I will bite. Married 10 years with 3 children. Dated for 3 years before marriage. We are still very happy, very much in love- he’s my best friend and we genuinely like spending time together. We are tired all the time but prioritize each other when possible.

The first year of our relationship was intense, ridiculous butterflies and amazing, mind-blowing sex. We went from casual to very serious very quickly. Said I love you I think 3 dates in. Within a month I knew we were going to get married.

Amazing. There was no doubt in my mind I wanted to marry her after the third or fourth week of being together. It's now been seven years.

This doesn't sound like a good direction...

What were the first couple of months like when you first dated your spouse?